(Closed) lost photographer and he wont refund!!

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Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

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@honeybeelove:  It may very well be that he’s making an excuse so that you will feel that he’s less “mean”… by pinning it on insurance instead of just telling you “Hey, it’s in your contract that I don’t have to give it back and I’m not going to.”  Is this wrong?  Well… yeah… lying is often wrong, but I don’t think that really changes the fact that he doesn’t have to give your deposit back.

As for judging how much he “needs” this money… I’m sorry, but that is so wrong and you are in no position to do that.  You have no idea about someone’s financial situation whatsoever and no business speculating on it.  Contrary to popular belief, wedding photographers, even highly successful ones, are not getting super rich.  There are a ton of business expenses, taxes, equipment, training, advertising, etc, etc, etc…. generally, they have enough money left over to make a decent income… far from extravagent. 

Bottom line, it’s completely irrelevant to the situation:

1) why you cancelled the wedding

2) whether he “needs” your $600 or not

3) whether or not his insurance company has anything to do with it or not

What matters is that if your contract states “Non-refundable deposit” – the deposit is non-refundable.  Case closed.

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

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@Nona99:  I’m very sorry to hear about your father, but did you take a minute to consider his side of things?  How many times do you think he’s been lied to by brides and grooms about family emergencies, deaths in the family and other things because people found a cheaper deal and wanted to back out of their deal with him under less than honest circumstances?

+1000 to this

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

He’s not unreasonable to keep the deposit. Other vendors are routinely booked not very far out from the wedding and can usually accommodate a number of weddings in one day/weekend (cake, florist, caterers, DJs, etc). Photographers on the other hand are routinely booked 6-18 months or more from the date, so the chances of him rebooking that date are low but he’s saying if he does he would be happy to refund it to you. That’s standard and doesn’t make him a bad person. He IS losing money because he’s turned down other inquiries for your date and is now out the money he would have made if he had booked a full price wedding that date. You can’t make assumptions about his financial status to justify why he should give you your money back. I’m very sorry to hear about your loss, but your photographer isn’t in the wrong here. 

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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@honeybeelove:  It stinks, it’s unfair, and it sucks BUT he’s likely to get that date booked in 3 months and be able to return your deposit.

I have a similar stipulation in my contract with my photographer. 

For now, call it a sunk cost and concentrate on grieving.  I’m very sorry for your loss.

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

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@honeybeelove:  you are very lucky that your other vendors are working with you. so lucky in fact, that you should realize that this $600 loss could have been a couple thousand and say a little thank you prayer.

i am sorry to hear about your father- i can’t even begin to imagine- but this is his livelihood and regardless of what you think, anyone working hard can use an extra $600. i’d take him up on the offer of the refund if he’s able to rebook. judging by how popular he is, this seems like a real possibility.

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

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@honeybeelove:  I totally understand where you’re coming from – believe me, I do.  I am so sorry for your loss. 

I agree with 

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@mamadingdong:  completely.  Look on the positive side – your financial loss could have been much bigger… and really, there’s nothing anyone can do to make up for the loss of your father.  Having the extra $600 back isn’t going to make up for it.  I would try not to worry about this money since there’s nothing you can do about it anyway… and concentrate on the positive things you still have going for your wedding.

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

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@BeachBride2014:  Chances are he Wont book that date. Very few people look for a photographer a few months before thier wedding date..

 

 

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

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@honeybeelove:  First off, I’m so sorry for your loss. The emotional toll that a death in the family can take makes it completely reasonable for you to want to postpone your wedding. 

However, your photographer is being more than reasonable in his offers to help you retain your deposit with him. Think about it – he’s given you two solutions (which you deemed unacceptable) instead of saying “sorry, no refunds.”

You have no idea if he’s lying to you, and it’s not your position to judge. He gave you two options, you declined. I think he was being very helpful. I’m sure he feels bad for you, and isn’t trying to take money away unjustly. But he has to make a living, and owning your own business can be expensive. 

My advice is to work with him on another date if you really want a photographer, but my guess is that you’re already bitter towards him and wouldnt enjoy him shooting your wedding.

Again, so sorry for your loss, but he has a business to run and a life (and possibly family) to support. See if there are other areas you can cut costs to get a new photographer. 

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

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@Styles:  Agreed, and the higher his price is, the less likely it is for him to rebook.  Higher budget weddings tend to be planned farther in advance… that’s just one of those things.  If he has a high price, it’s very unlikely that someone putting together a last-minute wedding is going to be interested in paying it.  Not impossible, but unlikely.

Post # 29
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

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@seAprilbride:  Exactly. As well as he has put about $600 worth of work and if deposit was in 2012 hes already paid taxes on the money as reported income.

 

Op Im really sorry for your loss. I lost my father many years ago. One day at a time. 🙂

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

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@honeybeelove:  It sounds to me like maybe your best option is really to delay the big wedding for much longer.  That would allow you to save up for a new photographer (and other wedding expenses), in addition to allowing you more time to heal from the loss of your dad.

You might even consider doing a courthouse wedding for right now (so that you can be legally married) and then plan on doing a bigger vow renewal/wedding reception later down the line.

Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

hate to say it but you signed a contract. my contract with my photographer specifically states that she does not refund.

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