Post # 1
I need some help. My fiancé is starting his own company and placed his life savings into his venture less the money for my engagement ring. Half jokingly, after asking me to be his wife he said “don’t lose it”.
Six weeks later, while saving my patient’s life I lost it!!! I searched the trash, retraced my steps, looked in elevators floors, asked janitorial services, placed a hospital blog post, checked eBay and Craigslist daily but no ring.
Conciously I know it is an inanimate object. And, if given the choice I would rather have lost my ring than my patient’s life but I cannot seem to shake it. I’m can honestly say I’m not doing well.
He said he’ll replace it later but each time I look at my hand I get sad all over again. So sad that i can’t get it together to plan the engagement party much less the wedding. I know it isn’t the ring but the man and the life we plan to spend with each other.
So I’m writing the letter amidst tears hoping someone has the magic response to shake these blues away.
Post # 3
I’m so sorry. I’ve lost my rings, so I know how you feel. I know it’s hard, but try not to beat yourself up over it. I don’t have any magic words to make you feel better, but I felt a little better when I found the Bee and realized I wasn’t the only one who has lost their ring. I hope you feel better and get to replace it soon.
Post # 4
I commend you for saving someone’s life! If I had to lose my e-ring, I guess that would be the way I’d want to lose it. I don’t have any advice for you though 🙁 just keep in mind how loved you are!
Post # 5
Thank you for the responses. I’m just so blue.
Post # 6
@Littlebittoo: Had you had the chance to insure it before you lost it? I am guessing not. If you did, check your policy…mine covers that type of thing I believe. I bet it would be hard to get them to pay up but it is worth a shot.
Post # 7
@August252012: oh I’d check local pawn shops too….and does your hospital contract out cleaning the linens? If they don’t do it in house, maybe call that company too.
Post # 8
Oh hun. I wish I had the words to make you feel better but they fail me.
Thank you for your work and the many lives I’m sure you touch everyday. God bless you!
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
I’m so sorry! I’d be completely devastated as well, probably hysterical…I know this isn’t a substitute but is there any chance you could look around online and fine some sort of ring that you like as a place holder until you can replace it? There are some really beautiful rings out there for less than $1000, to me it would be worth it to have something on my hand so that people at least will know I’m engaged!
Post # 10
I lost my ring too. I did manage to find it, but it was 6 months later and a total fluke that I found it at all. Fiance had even already replaced it for me. So I have 2 now. Oops. Is it possible you put it somewhere without realizing it?
I totally understand how upset you are. I didn’t want to do anything for the wedding because it all made me so sad, everything reminded me that I lost my ring. I wore another ring on my ring finger so that I wouldn’t feel so naked. Do you have something to wear in it’s place for now? Internet hugs! Dont loose hope, you may still come across it.
Post # 11
I lost mine too. I know it sucks (believe me, I know!), and I still feel incredibly guilty, but the disbelief and inability to think much past it goes away, I promise. Hopefully, unlike me, you had insurance and will be able to replace the ring free of charge. Best wishes!
Post # 12
IM REALLY SORRY FOR YOU. I WISH YOU CAN GET OVER THIS SOON.
EVERYTHING WILL BE FINE. I KNOW IT´S A VERY IMPORTANT PIECE OF JEWELRY, BUT THE MOST IMPORTANT PART ABOUT THE ENGAGEMENT STILL REMAINS WITH YOU. DON´T LOOSE THAT EVER.
Post # 13
I’m so sorry, I cant even imagine losing my ring. I never, ever take it off just for this reason. Was it insured? Your house insurance should cover it, or part of it, that might help take the financial sting out of replacing it, and perhaps until you can replace it you might be able to find a very similar CZ or moissanite ring to stand in?
Post # 14
I am so sorry you lost your ring 🙁 I do not have any advice, just wanted to offer up hugs.
Post # 16
Thank you everyone for the kind words and hugs. I’m here trying to push through it. I still search craigslist and eBay nightly amidst tears in hopes of finding my ring. The hospital is in a crappy neighborhood and truthfully I’m afraid of the pawnshops.
My ring was a “place holder ring” according to the Fiance. Once his business opens, he was going to purchase a diamond ring. The lost ring was a solitaire 1 carat tanzanite in white gold. Unique and all mine. We didn’t get it insured because on the spectrum of e-rings it wasn’t costly. It was just all he had. 🙁
So now I wait. He said he is going to replace it. When? I don’t know. I just feel naked without it.
Do you think if I can pick up something inexpensive to wear until he replaring the ring? Or is that offensive?
Edt. It was custom made