Loungey Venue, Too Informal? (Pics)

posted 2 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
6377 posts
Bee Keeper

I would just ensure that the formality of your event matches. I would not want to be eating a full buffet dinner sitting on a sofa in a gown. TBH I dont think I’d want to eat a full buffet dinner sitting on a sofa at all, but perhaps that is just me. This venue seems more appropriate for cocktail hour. 

That said, i do see the patio has actual tables, so there should be seating for people like me that dont like eating off my lap. 

Post # 3
811 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - Farm

generaldreaddd :  


I love the venue and the feel of it. It’s gorgeous. I understand why you guys choose the venue. The venue addressed the issue of tables by letting you know they can bring in a few for the older guests. If you are not having assigned seating at all, consider doing your speeches during cocktail hour, before the guests are requested to find a seat for dinner. I would suggest a cocktail style reception serving heavy hors d’oeuvres that preferably do not require a knife.


Post # 4
4670 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I think it’s nice. I can understand why you went for it. When they say 50 guests? Does this mean they have a minimum spend? I think it would be nice for a smaller group and you can use the different areas. A buffet is lovely too.

Ps. I had venue regrets too for about a week.

Post # 5
4481 posts
Honey bee

Hard pass on eating dinner on my lap.

I would not judge a reception for being informal.  I would judge for being poorly planned out and expecting guests to eat on their laps and balance their food and drinks on couches.  Hell,  you could have it in a Pizza Hut so long as I have a place to put my stuff and am not balancing food on my lap.  Maybe ok for a shower where it is between meals and just having cake and punch – but nothing with more substantial food than that.  There should be enough seats at tables for every body.


Post # 6
6300 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

I think it’s a lovely venue and that depending on the style of food it could work ie you need to serve finger food that people can easily.eat standing and that doesn’t require plates or cutlery. We had this for our evening reception and it worked well (though, most guests had eaten a 3 course meal.earlier for our wedding breakfast).

The food we had included lamb and chicken kebabs/skewers, open baguettes which were a few bites, steak ciabatta sandwiches (again, two or three bites per piece), croque monsieur, fish goujons etc, and small.pieces of wedding cake. Most people ate standing and were fine.

You just need to be careful; as well as the size and whether it can be eaten without cutlery you also need to think.about mess ie avoid anything that is very greasy or oily or might spill or drip. I would also serve it informally ie I wouldn’t announce that people have to sit down to eat, just out the food out at x time and people can go grab some as and when they choose.

Also make it clear it’s a finger buffet and not a sit down people so people can plan accordingly (eg have a substantial lunch, dress appropriately, etc)

Post # 9
148 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

What a beautiful room for your wedding reception!

Post # 10
11744 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

It’s lovely. As long as people can sit and there are taller tables with traditional chairs for those who prefer, it’s fine. 

Post # 11
4481 posts
Honey bee

I never said anyone would die.  You are being a bit overdramatic there.  But no, I don’t want to eat pasta or any other food requiring a knife and fork hunched over a coffee table in dress clothes.  It is messy and uncomfortable.  I don’t do it at home or in a resaturant either.  Or when I do it at home, I’m on the floor so the coffee table is an appropriate height that I’m not hunched over awkwardly.

So yeah, of course no one will die.  Most people who host parties though care about the comfort of guests and how well their plan will accommodate them.  As long as you are picking your food carefully and not hosting at a regular meal time, then cool.

Post # 13
8820 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

generaldreaddd :  If you’ve already made the decision and it can’t be changed, I wouldn’t ask for any more input. Not everyone likes cocktail-style wedding receptions. Most people want a “home base” where they know they can go get another drink or dance for a while, then come back and still have “their” seat. Many people prefer to eat dinner at a standard dining table. As long as there are enough seats for everyone to be sitting at the same time, it’s not that huge of a deal, so I would just go with what you’ve booked and not invite criticism that’s just going to increase your anxiety when there’s not really anything you can do at this point.

Post # 15
231 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

I think it’s great! What a beautiful space. As others have said, as long as you’re mindful about the kinds of food you’re serving, it should work wonderfully. Don’t let anyone knock the kind of day you want.

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