- 2 years ago
- Wedding: June 2018
Hi everyone! We booked our “venue” last night and even though I’m super excited, my anxiety has already kicked in. Please let me know your thoughts.
At first we weren’t going to have a reception, but then we decided to do it for our families. We had a guest list of 25 people which included our closest friends and immediate family only. We went on to search for a restaurant where we could book a private room for a little intimate dinner.
We found a place called Positano Coast in Philadelphia that offers different rooms for small groups to larger groups. As we were going through pictures of the different rooms, we immediately fell in love with one of the larger rooms called the Sopra Lounge (pictures below). It’s beautiful, blue, open and airy, BUT, it IS a lounge. So we emailed Positano and inquired about the room. We learned that in order to book the lounge, we would need at least 50 guests, and we can only do buffet style only because there are no formal table and chairs in that room (however, they said could put one table in to seat 6-8 ppl, for older guests who might want to properly sit and eat). We would have full access to their sound system if we’d like to have someone dj or simply plug our phone or iPod in to play music. We would also have full access to the connecting patio if people would like to be full outdoors. They said they’ve had receptions there before, and it has always been great. They said I just need to decide if we are okay with our reception being more laidback and casual, that’s all.
So Fiance and I had a talk. What kind of reception are we going for? Initially, we agreed to do a small, formal sit down dinner for 25 people. No music, no dancing, wine and beer only (honestly, just to get a reception dinner out of the way)… but after seeing and falling in love with the whole look and feel of the Sopra Lounge, we got more excited about having a reception. We asked each other how about going this route instead? Yes, it will be more informal and laid back, but that’s who we both are, right? Our guests will have to sit and eat on couches, and it will be buffet style, but we will pay for a full open bar so everyone can enjoy drinking and dancing. We’d need to invite more people and spend more money, but that’s okay because now we can include the people who were afraid would be offended if they weren’t invited. Basically, we can invite all of our friends and family and not have to feel any guilt at all. So we agreed. Sopra Lounge it is!
I am excited. We both are. We absolutely love the whole look and feel of the place… but here’s where my anxiety is kicking in 😩. Do you think people are going to judge us for having a loungey wedding reception dinner? Are they going to feel like, “wow, we have to sit on a couch to eat?” Are people going to think it’s too informal? Is IT too informal???
I’ve always been to traditional weddings. All of my friends had big traditional-like weddings at hotels and banquet halls, and obviously had dinner tables for everyone to sit and eat. I was talking to my best friend and she said to me, “you can have whatever kind of wedding that you want! There are so many different ways of having weddings that there is no right or wrong way!” That made me more confident in our decision to book the Lounge, but I would love to hear your thoughts. Do you think people will have an issue with how loungey and laidback it is? What was the most informal wedding you’ve been to? I don’t think my friends or family will have any issues, but my fiancé’s family are pretty damned judgmental and $$$ (and can never keep any comments to themselves) so yes, I admit I am afraid they will have something to say.
Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts! Like I said, I absolutely love everything about the Lounge and I won’t change it regardless, but man, ANXIETY IS A SON OF A BITCH!!!!
Here are some photos I grabbed from their website and google: