Post # 1
I absolutely hate planning my wedding. It is not fun. TV brides cannot possibly enjoy weddings because it is the most stressful, and chaotic time in my life. I completely love my Fiance, but i cannot stand planning the wedding. I was pressured into my dress by my mom, Maid/Matron of Honor, and the sales lady at Davids! Now, the more i sit online and look at other dresses, i don’t know if i even like the plus size dresses avail! I was forced to have TWO jr bridesmaids by the Mother-In-Law, and Maid/Matron of Honor. We are on a small budget and Fiance wants a large wedding with the works! I hate it all. I have never dreamed of a wedding, or the details or any of it. I wanted a picknic in the back yard with a taco bar. Now we are having the whole shebang! We are signed into a contract with the reception and the Save-The-Date Cards have already been sent out. I’m seriously freaked out and stressed. I hate this!! I wanted to Elope, but his faith prevented us from doing so. Plus, his immediate family wanted to Elope with us! So much for running away!
Please tell me i’m not the only one!
Post # 3
You are not the only one! I have had wedding regret for a few weeks now, I was never that girl that dreamed of her wedding, and dress, etc. I figured we would go to a courthouse and then have an awesome honeymoon somewhere. Like you, I have already booked my venue, caterer, DJ, florist, all of it. I mainly did this for my mom who is ill and she never had a wedding, I am the eldest daughter so she wanted to see me do the whole shebang. A couple of things were pointed out to me by a wise older lady who I just happened to strike up a conversation with. The wedding is not just about the dress, the cake, etc. Its about a memory. This is something special that you will remember for the rest of your life. She also told me that I should do my best to have as much fun planning up until the day of my wedding, because your wedding day is just that–its ONE day, so make the most of the time before that. So I have been heeding her advice the best I can, trying to have fun with different ideas about things, for example my Fiance wants comic book superheros incorporated somehow, I freaked out a little (see post, haha) but its actually becoming fun throwing around ideas! Enjoy yourself and dont stress out too much, this is the only time in your life you will have to do this sort of thing.
Post # 4
@sarahjaneincincinnati: I’m in the same boat you are (though no dress issues, thankfully!) I wanted a BBQ reception at a park after my nice church ceremony. My mom cried when I told her this and told me people would be offended. I wish I would’ve realized before I started planning the whole thing that if people are offended by what makes me happy, they really shouldn’t be at my wedding. Hang in there. It’s all worth it to marry your Fiance 😀 At least that’s whay I tell myself!
Post # 5
You are so not the only one! I have always been the girl that dreamed of a huge wedding and thought I would love planning it…and I cried for 3 hours last night about how much I hate this whole process. Everyone has a different opinion on all the wedding details and it’s impossible to make everyone happy. Totally wishing I could elope so I feel you!!