- 2 years ago
I know my questions and concerns pale in comparison to what so many are dealing with right now. Please take care of yourselves before worrying about the plans of some stranger on the internet.
My partner and I ordered a custom engagement ring that was supposed to be ready by the end of March, but is delayed because of Covid. We’re moving forward with planning anyways since we have the time and we don’t know when the ring will be ready. Essentially we are functionally engaged, just not officially, because that’s just how we’re adapting to this whole thing.
Now our big debate is 2021 vs. 2022. We had a venue in mind before all this began, and feel okay booking before we’ve seen it. We’ve been in communication with the venue already and feel good about it. I reached out a few weeks ago when I realized the number of people who have or likely will have to move 2020 weddings could make it harder to get a 2021 date. In fact, our first choice of date was already booked, but our second choice is still available.
The more I’ve thought about it, the more I’ve wondered if we should wait for 2022. I’m worried that increased demand for 2021 could make things more expensive, that guests will be overwhelmed by the number of 2021 weddings they’ll be invited to, or will have to choose between conflicting weddings. We’d also have more opportunity to meet with vendors in person and see the space before booking, etc if we were to push things back. I’m making my dress so I’m not worried about turnaroud time on that in light of the pandemic, but more time to work on the dress wouldn’t be a bad thing.
My only real reason to keep planning for a 2021 date is my grandparents. I lost my Grampa this past Christmas, but still have 3 living grandparents who mean the world to me. I really hope to have them there with me on my wedding day, and they have all expressed how much they look forward to that. All three are in their 80s. I know there is no way to predict the future, but at their age, each passing year makes such a difference. It just feels like 2021 is the best chance of having them there.
So, if you were me, what would you do? Any other newly engaged (or fellow functionally engaged) brides wresling with a similar conundrumn?