(Closed) Love is or isn’t enough–where are you on this?

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
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  • Post # 32
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    I answer to this question would be maybe.

    Love can do some amazing things but sometimes you need something else.

    Post # 33
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    It depends what you mean by love.  How you define it.  If love is an action word that encompasses many things (which it is to me)- then yes.

    Post # 34
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Good question 🙂  Whenever I hear about relationship drama, the song always goes through my mind…Sometimes love just ain’t enough!

    It’s really amazing to me how I have felt completely in love with someone and have it all change in an instant to hate or indifference based on just one negative experience like infidelity, betrayal, lying, etc.

    Post # 35
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I think you can love many people dearly (in a romantic sense) in your lifetime…but we’re not always mature enough at those stages to have the mental and emotional tools necessary to make every one of those relationships work.

    But when we are ready, and we fall in love with someone who’s ready too…well, history is made! 🙂

    So no, I do not think love is enough. It’s nice…but so is ice cream.

    Post # 37
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I’m curious, do anyone else believes that love encompasses responsibility, commitment, etc?  See what I mean by love, I mean working to love.  Actively loving, not something that is passive.

    Post # 38
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    This thread is full of EPIC WIN.

    Post # 39
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Love and the faith to work on your relationship even when you don’t love him so much at that moment…

    Post # 40
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I dont think so. You have to want to be in the relationship too – and in order to do that you have to want to work at it, which can be hard at times!

    Post # 41
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 1991

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    @vmec: Totally agree with everything you said!

    In Greek, there are 4 words for love that each mean something different — affection, friendship (also includes mutual respect), sexual love, and unconditional love (also includes commitment… doing what it takes).  I believe that a marriage needs both partners to exhibit all of those kinds of love in order for a marriage to last and really, truly THRIVE!

    So, yes, love as the broader definition is what gets you through, but not the warm feelings most people would describe as love.

    Post # 42
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Absolutely not enough. You can love someone with all your heart but if you want two different things out of life… eventually one or both of you will be unhappy. Some things can’t be compromised.

    I broke up with my ex because of this. I really, truly loved him. I believe he really, truly loved me. But we wanted different things. When we met I was headed to college and he was headed to the airforce academy (he always dreamed of being a military pilot). Once things got semi-serious I tried to end it because I told him I could never be a military wife– it wasn’t a life I was willing to live. He gave up the academy to be with me. Five years later and he still couldn’t get being a military pilot out of his head and he finally realized he’d always regret it if he didn’t at least try to fulfill his lifelong dream. I still didn’t want to be a military wife so we broke up. I guess you could say one or both of us didn’t love the other ENOUGH? But I don’t see any future with the two of us where we were both happy. Love doesn’t overcome every other want and need in your life. 

    Post # 43
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    Worker bee

    Frown No it’s not…. I just ended a 3.5 yr relationship……..I’ve now realized that I was unhappy for a long time but was holding on to the love I had once felt, thinking it would be enough, but it wasn’t.

    Post # 44
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    Busy Beekeeper

    As Tina said it best “Whats Love got to do with it?”

    In the real world of relationships, facing those day to day struggles where things ocassionally get bumpy and sometimes down right nasty, no it is not.

    Especially the older you get or if you have more relationship expereince you come to find out real quick love is never enough, cause there is so much more to sharing your life with someone than love. I think some people are naive to think love alone fixes all.

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