Post # 1
- Wedding: June 2019 - Turkey
Hi bees, I didn’t know about love language until recently. It’s the little things you do to your partner and they do, say etc to you that makes a couple happy.
I took the love language test online and I got “quality time” at the top, and it is indeed correct.
For example, out of respect I rarely use my mobile phone while we’re together with my fiance, even that means we’re having a one week road trip. I try to focus on meaningful interactions overall. I also do enjoy when he shows love through his actions and not just state it.
On the other hand, my fiance loves physical interaction even if it means hugging silently or maybe napping on my lap.
I’m attaching this photo from this morning. We don’t live together, I was cleaning the house like no ones business and he came over, prepared breakfast for me! That was so special.
What are the little things you enjoy when your SO does or what do you do to make them happy?
Post # 2
Mine is physical interaction so literally nothing makes me happier than a hug and cuddle time! I love winters so we can cuddle in front of the fireplace and watch a good movie or read a book! Thankfully physical and quality time are his top two so it works well for us!
Post # 3
I made my DH take the Love Languages quiz on our first date! Which was a weird conversation to have with a guy I’d known for all of a week, but it’s been so beneficial.
We both score high on two. For him, it’s quality time and physical touch. For me, it’s words of affirmation and physical touch. So we overlap on the physical touch, which I love because I can be so clingy and he not only tolerates it all, but actually likes it.
For his quality time, we spend every chance we get together. Which isn’t all that much, because we work opposite schedules, so every precious moment counts. I get all of my chores and errands done when he’s at work to maximize our time together.
And for my words of affirmation… sticky notes. We leave them for each other with love quotes, Bible verses, and just sweet messages. Early in our relationship, I was able to express my feelings that way earlier than I could bring myself to say them out loud, and it became a thing.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2019 - Turkey
dobby98 : heheh lovely! I’m not a big cuddler, after say 5 minutes I even jump on my fiance to do something meaningful because I simply cannot stand still. It’s not such a big problem or anything but I’m amazed how differently people perceive love.
It’s a great idea to have him take this test , maybe not as soon as one week relationship lol. 🙂 I did this with 16 personalities test, it was very beneficial while evaluating his behaviors and our compatibility.
Post # 5
Lol! I’m just glad he isn’t a words of affirmation guy because tbh, spoken love words make me cringe so hard lol! I legit don’t watch romance movies because hearing them say mushy stuff makes me so uncomfortable! So glad saying vows is not a thing in my culture at weddings lol. (No offense to anyone of course!!!!) idk why it bothers me so much. Maybe cause I’m definitely an “actions speak louder than words” type of person 🤷🏻♀️ We say “I love you” yes, but that’s the extent of it haha. So yeah it’s definitely crazy how different people are in terms of giving and feeling love!!! betyl :
Post # 6
I took the test and it was a tie between gift giving and acts of service.
Post # 7
My SO and I took this test for the first time on our 1 year anniversary, and again a few weeks ago. His is Words of Affirmation, and mine is Quality Time. Luckily we are both pretty good at doing both for each other. I try to make sure to thank him frequently, even for little things like pulling my car into the garage at night, and I’m mindful about giving him little compliments, like that his new haircut looks great or telling him I love that he’s such a handyman after he builds or fixes something.
We also bought the book, which is a great relationship building tool even if you don’t read every page from cover to cover.
Gifts were lowest on the list for both of us, and we were pretty closely tied with Acts of Service and Physical Touch.
Post # 8
We took the test a few months after moving in together, after nearly breaking up about a pot of soup. My language is acts of service, and I couldn’t understand why he didn’t appreciate the healthy, tasty food I’d made us. His is words of affirmation, which was really hard for me to truly understand.
As we’ve been together longer, I feel like we both use ‘touch’ more. It would be interesting to do the quiz again – has anyone changed their love language?
Post # 9
We haven’t done it yet, but once FH gets his laptop fixed, we might do it.
Post # 10
Wow!!! That’s so nice. I would like to test it out soon. Soon after he arrives from his trip we will do it. Wil share the updates soon. Bye.
Post # 11
Just googled this test I’m an acts of service kind of girl apparently. This doesn’t surprise me. If I come home from a busy day at work nothing makes me happier to find he’s done the dishes or the hoovering, or cooked dinner. To me it’s the little things you do one another that show love.
He is gift giving. Which again doesn’t surprise me, since I’ve been with him it’s any excuse to exchange gifts, not just Christmas and birthdays, there’s Valentine’s Day, the anniversary of our first date, Easter, sometimes it’s just because. I found out he used to buy more gifts when he was unsure of things or trying to fix things If we’d had an argument.
I try really hard to remember to get him a gift occasionally just because, as he really appreciates that and thinks it shows love. But he tries really hard to remember to do the dishes or hoover or just tidy up or cook a nice meal for me because I really appreciate that.
Post # 12
- Wedding: June 2019 - Turkey
vita226 : Definitely do it, I actually took mine on my phone. It’s very simple to do. My fiance is busy nowadays, so I’ll ask him to just take it when we’re together. He’s never do it if I sent it and asked. hehe
I certainly did, or had to! I never really care about nice words or cute nicknames until my current relationship. I always called my exes by their names, and I even “warned” my back then date now FH, I didn’t like those namings and wouldn’t ever use. haha I was wrong. He’s been so cutesy with his words, I simply can’t not show love through words now. I call him ‘my lamb’ (that has a nice meaning in our mother tongue ) and he named me ‘my hazelnut’ (he just things I’m sweet as a hazelnut and look like one rofl)
It’s not black and white of course with this test results but I’m sure it’s helpful. I’m kinda enlightened.
Post # 13
My love language is physical touch, followed quite closely by quality time. My fiance’s love language is also physical touch, followed closely by words of affirmation. Makes sense for both of us! You can understand the crazy pain it is to go through a deployment! All I want to do is hold him!
Post # 14
Love the Love Languages!
About 2 months in I made my boyfriend take it with me and was not suprised to find we have the same 2 strong languages – quality time and physical touch. It made sense why we both felt so warm and fuzzy with eachother all the time. We were speaking the same language 🙂
He’s definitely a “need to have sex every day at least once but up to 3 times” guy and I could do every other day. But since I know its a part of his way of showing love I do it daily and I do feel like it helps us connect and bond too.
I also had to learn to do the routine stuff like errands together. I was alone for a long time and very used to doing my own thing. But he values grocery shopping together or doing boring errands together.
Post # 15
It’s funny because my top love language is Words of Affirmation, but the longer I’ve been married, the higher my score gets for Acts of Service, which is DH’s language. I’ve learned to see acts of service as love, so we’re actually “learning” each other’s languages!