Post # 16
My husband and I share our top love language, Physical Touch, which is so nice – I think that would be a tough one if one person in the couple needed it and the other didn’t like it. We get comments on our PDA (just hand holding/back rubbing) sometimes though.
For me, in second place are acts of service and quality time (tied). Then words of affirmation are tied with receiving gifts. My husband’s second highest is probably words of affirmation. He tells me constantly how much he loves me and how wonderful I am. I need to make a consious effort to tell him those things too – it just doesn’t come naturally to me!
Post # 17
- Wedding: April 2019 - City, State
Mine is Words of Affirmation. After talking to my SO about this after I read the book, he has made a concious effort to say meaningful things in the moment, instead of just thinking them in his head. Words have a lot of power to make me feel really wonderful and also hurt me. I am grateful that I have a better understanding of why I feel the way I do sometimes. I highly recommend the book!
Post # 18
Mine are tied between acts of service and quality time. Both of my parents are definitely acts of service and I think that was instilled in me through watching them…that if a person loves you, they will show you with acts of service. My ex husband notoriously started things and didn’t finish them, and couldn’t be bothered to lift a finger to do anything for me. My FH is the exact opposite. He looks for both big and small ways to help me and I appreciate it so much. Unforuntately I also really prioritize quality time, and that is something that has always been lacking in our relationship due to mostly uncontrollable circumstances. That was one that caused tears and fighting earlier on. I still struggle with it, but FH is aware now of the importance it holds for me so he tries harder.
FH would never sit and take this sort of test but I think acts of service and words of affirmation are his. For words of affirmation not necessarily saying I love you constantly and reassuring each other of our affection, but rather he needs to know he is appreciated and verbal reinforcement of this is important to him.