(Closed) 'Love language' – what's yours? Does it match with your SO?

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Sugar bee

Mine is Gifts (surprise, surprise) and his is Acts of Service. They’re basically diametrically opposed, haha.

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

I can’t remember the numbers but I know we both scored quite highly in the gifts section lol. Darling Husband also has words of affirmation which is one of my smaller categories. There’s a related one about the language of apologies too which helped us explain some bits. I would definitely recommend love languages, it’s so easy to see how we’re showing live to our SOs and so important.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I love the love languages! Mine are physical touch and words of affirmation while my husband’s are acts of service and quality time. He never took the quiz, but he told me just from my explaining the different love languages to him. 

It is something I always keep in the back of my mind since we do have different love languages. So when he shows me physical affection, it means more to me because I know it’s not his innate way to show love. Conversely, I have to make an effort to make sure I show him love in his love language rather than my own all the time. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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veganbee2017:  Reading the book really helps with identifying which languages you truly are. I took the quiz for fun and scored differently than when I read the book. Also another key way to recognize which ones you are…..how you show love. If you are very touchy feely or service oriented towards your SO that’s a good indicator of how you want to be loved. You’ll show love in the ways that you want to be loved, which is often why there ends up being problems unless you are with someone who has the same languages as you. Then you wont have to work quite as hard at showing the other love because you’ll do it naturally.

I am gifts (sounds superficial, but it could really be any ol’ thing) and quality time

Fi is touch and words of affirmation

 

I grew up in a non-touching home and we also don’t really express verbally that we love each other so I’ve REALLY struggled with making sure my fi knows he’s loved. It’s easy for me to buy him gifts constantly and spend time with him but he feels most loved by the way I tell him and also by hugging, hand holding, kissing, etc. He has to really make it a point to spend quality time with me and bring me little gifts (flowers, love notes, etc).

Post # 8
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Helper bee

I got Gifts (explains why I buy people gifts for almost any occasion) and Quality Time. Fiance got Physical Touch and Quality Time.

I used to get frustrated when he wasn’t the type to plan elaborate surprises (I am this way) for birthdays or whatever until we took this quiz and now I am more understanding haha

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

My was gifts and Physical touch.

My Fiance is acts of service and phsical touch. It helps me understand us both better. Latley I wonder if qulity time is one of mine. but maybe it’s just us being busy. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Ours were very similar!

Mine: 11 physical touch, 8 quality time, 5 words of affirmation, 4 acts of service, 2 gifts

His: 11 physical touch, 9 quality time, 5 words of affirmation, 5 acts of service, 0 gifts

 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

It’s nice that you are simiar!! I am Quality Time and Darling Husband is Physical Touch and Words of Affirmation. It was tough at first getting used to each other’s love styles and figuring out how to show each other love, but it’s second nature now.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Acts of Service was number one for us both. Words of Affirmation was 2nd for me, but way down there on his list. 

We took this quiz earlier in our relationship and in all honesty I believe it really helped us understand one another better. 

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Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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veganbee2017:  I think it’s definitely possible! I think especially now that it’s easier for me to communicate using his love languages, I am also more receptive to those love languages, and I think same for him. It would be interesting to retake the quiz!

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