Post # 1
The book "Five Love Languages" says that love is expressed in one of five ways:
- words of affirmation
- quality time
- receiving gifts
- acts of service, or
- physical touch
Mrs. Bee and I have had long conversations about our love languages, and whether or not our love languages overlap (they don’t!). But of course, you can learn to speak each others’ love language… and make sure your partner feels loved.
How about you guys: what’s your love language? What about your SO? Do you guys speak the same love language?
Post # 3
I love that you posted this. Such an interesting topic. My Fiance always says that we speak the same love language which physical touch, (we’re very cuddly, touchy feely people). But I think that people have more than one language of love and just adapt depending what relationship they are in, (I know in a past relationship, gifts was the way my ex expressed his love and I was fine with that). But I guess in FI’s past relationship they were totally off on their language of love so to him it’s very important that we share the same language.
Post # 4
I show love to others with words of affirmation and physical touch. I prefer to receive love with words of affirmation and quality time.
Mr Corn shows love to others with acts of services and prefers to receive acts of service.
Once we sat down and talked about this, things made much more sense and we are both aware of not only when the other person is trying to show us love, but better for each of us to try and show our love to the other person.
Post # 5
Ah just came across an interesting Love Languages quiz!
The quiz asks you 30 questions pitting each love language against each other, and counts how many times each love language wins.
My scores are pretty different from what I expected:
10 points: Physical Touch
8 points: Quality Time
6 points: Acts of Service
5 points: Words of Affirmation
1 points: Receiving of Gifts
It seems pretty true – I do like to go on walks (Quality Time) and hold hands (Physical Touch). And I really hate to receive gifts. A thoughtful gift I can accept, but an expensive gift would just make me uncomfortable.
I would’ve thought Acts of Service would fall lower though. I think the quiz is a bit off because anytime a question came up about Gifts, I chose the other option.
Anyone out there take this quiz? I’d love to see your results!
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2005 - Westside Loft, New York
Here are my results!
Acts of Service – 12
Quality Time – 8
Receiving Gifts – 5
Words of Affirmation – 4
Physical Touch – 1
Very much in line with what I thought. As you can see…. Mr. Bee and I have opposite love languages!
Post # 7
Score Love Language
7 Words of Affirmation
10 Quality Time
3 Receiving of Gifts
4 Acts of Service
6 Physical Touch
Vs. my husband’s:
Score Love Language
7 Words of Affirmation
7 Quality Time
1 Receiving of Gifts
11 Acts of Service
4 Physical Touch
I’m not sure it if was just this quiz, but his results are different than what they were when we did this during our marriage prep class. His results in our class showed his primary love language as physical touch…maybe results differ from pre & post marriage.
Post # 8
Wow – this is interesting! We are going to have to sit down and take the quiz.
Darling Husband loves to do things for the people he loves. That’s why he’s the one who cooks dinner and does the grocery shopping. He is really happy when I am super busy at work, or really tired, and he can go out and accomplish something for me. He actually tends to get a little cranky when I do something that he considers "his" job. He almost never, ever, thinks to buy me a little present, or flowers – except on my birthday, Christmas, or Valentine’s Day, when he goes all out.
I am all about the little presents. If I see something I think a loved one or friend would like, I buy it (or order it). Mostly these aren’t expensive things – just little things I think will brighten up someone’s day, and my way of saying that I was thinking about them. While I don’t mind doing stuff around the house (laundry, cleaning) I think of it more as something that has to get done, rather than as my gift or service to anyone.
Luckily we overlap on the subjects of touch and quality time, although I think they are a little more important to him than to me. He does sometimes have to remind me that we should sit down on the couch and have a glass of wine, or that I should wrap up whatever thing I’m busy with so that he can put his arms around me for a bit. But it’s great at the end of the day to have an hour where we just sit together and talk, or watch a travel show, and lean against each other.
Post # 9
We overlap- we do all those things except for gifts- they cost $ and we’re trying to save!
Post # 10
I think about this kind of thing all the time! My fiance and I get along pretty well because we’re both all about touch (I scored second highest there). My highest scoring one was quality time. I scored lowest on gifts, but I would say that it’s probably higher than that; it’s just that my fiance isn’t that way at all, and I’ve come to accept that. I’m a big gift giver, myself. I’m always buying him something!
Post # 11
My language is Words of Affirmation. I read the book before the quiz was included in it, and really believe in not using the quiz to figure it out. The author suggests looking at ways you show love. I once wrote a huge list to my Darling Husband on why I love him. I also was CONSTANTLY telling him how good looking he was, etc. I couldn’t understand why that made him uncomfortable. I LOVED hearing stuff like that from him and couldn’t get enough of it. Finally- I read this book and it all made sense.
His is physical touch.