Love Languages: Dealing with 0% Words of Affirmation

posted 2 months ago in Relationships
Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper

There is a very good article published by the Atlantic about how so many people like you have totally misinterpreted the actual text of Chapman’s book. I encourage you to look it up as it is the most plain language account I have read.

I repeat again the love languages is about understanding the different ways to show love and not about dictating to your partner how they must show you love.  

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Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

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@rockymtnbee: I relate. My SO shows his love through acts of service, and in the past I have always wanted words of affirmation. It took me some time, but I have just accepted him the way his is. Sometimes I ask him for some reassurance, and he always gives it to me (probably as an act of service, lol).  I see all the things he does as examples of his love for me, and now I am totally fine with it. In fact, it’s a bloody good love language! 

my previous husband gave me heaps of words of affirmation but did nothing around the house. Today my SO asked me for a list of jobs to help prepare the house for our second child on the way, and has worked diligently for hours. 

I guess I’m just saying it doesn’t need to be a deal breaker! You can view things through a different lens and appreciate the love that you are receiving. 

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