Post # 1
Ok so I am still in “waiting” so I am not really a full figured bride yet so I am sorry if I’m and forum hacking buuuuut I just want to know…
Any of you ladies in the same shoes as me?
I didn’t gain my weight till after I met my SO he gained weight too! We’ve been together almost three years and I’ve put on about 25lbs and He has put on about oh 60lbs (he lost about 30 this summer though, its wayy too easy for men to drop the LBS!!) I was a chunky little kid, very thin in high school, and now I’m chunky all over again.
I chalk it up to happiness in all aspects of my life, bc thats what my SO does he makes every part of my life better, and no matter how much weight i’ve put on I feel so beautiful because he brings out the best in me in everyway including my self esteem!
So any other bees out there like me?? Has love and happiness made you fat lol?
Post # 3
uggh! Yes!! I had lost like 35-40 lbs before I met Fiance. The we meet fall in love and I move to Louisiana.. and gain it all back!! So now Im back up to like 221lbs and I just want to get back down to like 175/180.
It happens every time I get into a new relationship though. lol
Post # 4
Yes and yes! I read somewhere that for every long term relationship a woman puts on an average of 15 pounds, yikes! It happens. We get content and feel secure and stop worrying about those extra pounds/calories and inches.
While I have never tiny but always athletic I gained quite a bit of weight in college due to the studying and eating at random times without time for exercise. I left college a size 18 (was a 14 when I started) and quickly shot up to a size 22/24 while with my Fiance. I was happy, I was loved, he thought I was beautiful so why bother with proper nutrition and exercise right? I did feel beautiful despite the weight and he loved me for me just as I was.
I will say that for health reasons and the fact that I could no longer do the things I love I ended up changing my lifestyle and lost 120 pounds, which I’m sure he appreciates as well. It is easy to fall back into the security mode of thinking but I had to make the changes for myself alone.
Post # 5
I was in HS and a lot smaller when we MET, but then I got fat after HS but then I lost and then I got fat and now losing for the wedding…I have no idea…wouldn’t say more than 30lbs (fluctuating of course)
Post # 6
Fiance and I are both guilty of gaining ‘happy’ weight. I can chalk some of mine (50+) up to pregnancy, and general life reasons, too, though. We met when I was 18 (him 21), and I was actually battling anorexia/bulemia. Obviously once I got that under control, I started gaining weight back, and then with the pregnancy it went from there..
Fiance on-the-other-hand has probably gained close to 100lbs since we met. He was scrawny all through high school (6′, and 140-ish), but once college hit, he started gaining. I chalk most of his up to a busy, busy lifestyle; working, etc. Plus, he’s a chef by trade, so he’s always sampling, and never eats properly. Lots of takeout, or quick meals for him.
Post # 7
For the record. A lot changed in my life causing to to be less active and more dependant on whatever cheap food I could fine. College = Freshman 15, no time for sports, no more marching band (which can seriously kick your butt! People think it is just walking around, Its NOT!) more time sitting and studying in class or in my dorm, and my college jobs required me to sit. Also I moved out of my parents home and as cheap as Ramin and the Dollar Menu are, they are NOT good for you one bit. Mr. Hedgie had all the same problems. So we both gained this stupid weight together.
Post # 8
Ugh yes! and can I also blame BC for some of the extra pounds?!
Post # 9
I met my Fiance in high school so I was smaller then..but I don’t think my 20lb weight gain is because of him… it’s just because I’ve become a woman. well…maybe 5 or so lbs would be because of him haha.
Post # 10
we have noticed (after not paying attention for a year) that we have actually lost weight since we have moved in together. i was looking at pictures of us at a gathering from last year and then at pictures from the latest harry potter movie and was like “OMG, we are totally smaller now.”
my parents were visiting today and also noticed it in both of us.
two reasons for this that i am just guessing about. i want to be susie home-maker so i do alot of from-scratch cooking… so not as much instant microwave crap we used to eat when there was nobody to cook for. and also we are on a third floor apartment with no elevator so we get alot of exercise whether we want to or not.
Post # 11
@cherrydoll: Yes, I gained 30 on BC!
@ames12708: OH YES! You’re not alone! I miss the old me but not enough to ever imagine life without my husband! Dang the fact that to him “a meal is not a meal without meat involved” LOL!
Post # 12
This is so unfortunate. I also gained weight after Fiance and I got together. Moreso around the time he proposed as well. I’m so depressed and bothered by it. I had lost a bit of weight before meeting him and our first year of dating. Grrrr.
Post # 13
I actually lost a lot of weight because we completely stopped eating out to save money for the wedding- haha. But now that the wedding is over and we don’t have the extra expenses, I may be watching it pile back on… haha.
Post # 14
@brideatbeach: I can actually see us losing weight once we’re on our own and we have to pinch pennies to really survive.
Post # 15
@Rouquine: Yeah, that was totally it. We had both just graduated from college when we moved in together and were working random part-time gigs while trying to find full-time positions. Now that we both have “real” jobs and aren’t paying for a wedding, we need to be careful and keep using our apartment complex’s exercise center! lol
Post # 16
I think I have actually lost a few lbs in the 2 years that Fiance and I have been together. When we started dating, he ate fast food almost every single day. He doesn’t have a kitchen, only a fridge (long story) so he just ate fast food all the time. I managed to get him awy from it thank God. Because 1) eating out everyday is ridiculously expensive and 2) it’s just bad for you. He also haden’t gone to the gym in quite some time when we started dating. Now he goes all the time. We also play dodgeball twice a week and go hiking or play other sports for fun. I would much rather do something active then go out to dinner. We can make something healthy at home and save money and calories. Plus doing something active is way more fun 🙂