(Closed) Love Me or Hate me, This is What I’m Doing! Post Your Off Beat Wedding Plans!

posted 9 years ago in Themes
Post # 3
74 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I love Offbeat Bride.

Post # 4
920 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

so glad im not the only one having security lol. my family likes to become overly dramatic and bring up the past at weddings and since im the “bad kid” in the family i can only imagine what they will come up with…i put an earlier start too and im also having a cash bar.

im also:

having 1/3 on the guests are under 18 (my uncles have a lot of kids lol)

not serving dinner, just appatizers and dessert

having an after party for the guests who arent ready to sleep (gotta finish those kegs somehow!)

having both our daughters all over the wedding. in the party, helping design stationary, in the ceremony, on the Out of Town bags basically they are taking over lol

Post # 5
822 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Good for you.  Like you said, the wedding is about you and your Fiance, not about anyone else so should be done how you want it to be done!

We are:

– Not registering (asking people if they want to get a gift to contribute to honeymoon instead)

– Not doing Save The Dates

– Not having a rehearsal dinner

– Inviting only some cousins (FI’s fam especially not happy with this, they think if we invite some we have to invite them all but we def are not!)

Post # 6
224 posts
Helper bee

I love this!

We are:

-not saving stds

-only inviting two people

-having a big two tier cake even tho there will be only four of us

-I am NOT wearing white

-he is wearing really nice board shorts

-both people will also be helping out with set up and take down

-not having a reception

-staging momments (ie first dance right after the ceramony ect)

-registering just for the after wedding discount

lol and Im sure there are some others *chuckles*

Post # 7
1356 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Hah! This is a good idea for a thread. Fun.

  • Cash bar (gasp!) – totally common in our area.
  • Friday wedding

I actually think that’s everything scandalous that we’re doing.

Post # 8
3788 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Not having a rehearsal dinner makes my type-A planner self go into a panic. I need one just for my own reassurance!

But I do agree with picking and choosing what aspects you want. Though many places try to say differently, there is no definitive list of what must be done at a wedding! Besides the vows part. ๐Ÿ˜‰

I didn’t do save the dates. I’m not doing a garter/bouquet toss. My ladies are wearing black, which seems to be either people love or hate it.

Post # 9
98 posts
Worker bee

Okay three things that I noticed that didn’t seem offbeat to me- can anyone explain?

Spent at least 10k- The national average is almost triple that, so it seems like that is pretty common.

Wedding toppers in your image- is this a faux pas or something? I have never heard of that being weird?

Adults only- I read all over the boards of Bees who are doing the same thing, and trust me, wish we could do the same thing ourselves. So, does not seem too offbeat to me. 


Post # 12
1062 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I like this post ๐Ÿ™‚

Here is my “off beat” things:

-Friday night wedding

-Break dancers at the reception

-Might have a Choreographed dance for the wedding party and us

-Not doing STDs

-Having Rehersal Dinner at home with drinks, finger foods, music, and games.

I think thats all ๐Ÿ™‚


Post # 13
5654 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

We had a MORNING ceremony


living is South Texas most of our family members were like “Gasp – where’s the BBQ” so…..

IMMEDIATE family only! no Aunts, Uncles, Cousins

The guys wore WHITE tuxes

There were a LOT of other things that we did different (for our area) but everyone liked them…. =)

Paper Flowers Bouquets & Decor

Guys Wore Chucks

used Vinyl Records as Decor

No Alcohol

No Cake…. cupcakes insted

and had Worship in our Ceremony before DH and I took Communion Together (not Catholic)

I think that’s about it….. yea… and it was Perfect for us! =)

Post # 15
811 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

We’re forcing guests to eat at picnic tables -fancy ass picnic tables (like adirondac chairs, but picnic tables). I say forcing, because only my 78 year old grandmother is being offered a chair.

We’re having our reception at a conservation area by a trout pond. There will be bugs -apparently bugs are very worrysome to some people

There’s no seating plan

No dancing No speeches No headtable (in case you missed that my shoes will be perfectly suited for the dancing part of the evening BECAUSE THERE IS NO DANCING….and our first dance song will be the crickets chirping -yes, crickets are bugs)

I might walk down the aisle with the groom (I say might because this is causing a hell of alot of drama). We’ve been together for 10 years…do you really think I need daddy to give me away?

Our brothers are not in our wedding party, but will be signing our marriage licence

Cupcakes (not that this will shock you bees, but it floored my grandmother who got me some god ugly cake cutting knife)

…oh, I am sure there is more, but I’ll leave you all to digest this

Post # 16
7298 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I am a member of offbeatbride.com 

  • Having a short dress 
  • Showing all of my tattoos (and getting more before the wedding.) 
  • Mr. Tattoo is toying with the idea of wearing a kilt. 
  • We are writing our ceremony from scratch 
  • We are havving cupcakes! 
  • TOying with the idea of having a tattoo bonding ceremony after we say I do. 
  • Having a groomswoman 
  • Not having a slow first dance (we are taking swing lessons) 
  • Not having a head table 
  • having a reception dress 

    That’s all I can think about right now. I would say First Look, but First Looks seem like they are becoming the norm so it’s not quite offbeat anymore.  

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