Post # 1
Like the title says, you can either love me or hate me, but either way I am going to end up doing what will make me and my FH happy. I’ve included below a few of the things that seem to be annoyances to others that I plan to do at my wedding
- Not host a Rehearsal Dinner
- Put an earlier start time on my invites
- Spent at least 10k (paid in cash working for only $11 btw)
- Having wedding cake toppers made in our image
- Adult Only Ceremony and Reception
- Having my wedding on a Friday Night
Ok, I think I’m done. IF there’s more, they arent telling me to my face LOL
What are some things that people just don’t understand that you are doing at your wedding?
Post # 4
so glad im not the only one having security lol. my family likes to become overly dramatic and bring up the past at weddings and since im the “bad kid” in the family i can only imagine what they will come up with…i put an earlier start too and im also having a cash bar.
having 1/3 on the guests are under 18 (my uncles have a lot of kids lol)
not serving dinner, just appatizers and dessert
having an after party for the guests who arent ready to sleep (gotta finish those kegs somehow!)
having both our daughters all over the wedding. in the party, helping design stationary, in the ceremony, on the Out of Town bags basically they are taking over lol
Post # 5
Good for you. Like you said, the wedding is about you and your Fiance, not about anyone else so should be done how you want it to be done!
– Not registering (asking people if they want to get a gift to contribute to honeymoon instead)
– Not doing Save The Dates
– Not having a rehearsal dinner
– Inviting only some cousins (FI’s fam especially not happy with this, they think if we invite some we have to invite them all but we def are not!)
Post # 6
I love this!
-not saving stds
-only inviting two people
-having a big two tier cake even tho there will be only four of us
-I am NOT wearing white
-he is wearing really nice board shorts
-both people will also be helping out with set up and take down
-not having a reception
-staging momments (ie first dance right after the ceramony ect)
-registering just for the after wedding discount
lol and Im sure there are some others *chuckles*
Post # 7
Hah! This is a good idea for a thread. Fun.
- Cash bar (gasp!) – totally common in our area.
- Friday wedding
I actually think that’s everything scandalous that we’re doing.
Post # 8
Not having a rehearsal dinner makes my type-A planner self go into a panic. I need one just for my own reassurance!
But I do agree with picking and choosing what aspects you want. Though many places try to say differently, there is no definitive list of what must be done at a wedding! Besides the vows part. 😉
I didn’t do save the dates. I’m not doing a garter/bouquet toss. My ladies are wearing black, which seems to be either people love or hate it.
Post # 9
Okay three things that I noticed that didn’t seem offbeat to me- can anyone explain?
Spent at least 10k- The national average is almost triple that, so it seems like that is pretty common.
Wedding toppers in your image- is this a faux pas or something? I have never heard of that being weird?
Adults only- I read all over the boards of Bees who are doing the same thing, and trust me, wish we could do the same thing ourselves. So, does not seem too offbeat to me.
Post # 10
@melynn44: It wasn’t just “off beat” it was things that seemed to annoy others and cause the most attack. And I can tell by your post, that instead of playing along, you picked apart my post. It was suppose to be a fun post for women who are stepping down their own path, so please don’t be such a downer. Each individual thing alone may not be “off beat” to you, but being off the beaten path doesn’t always mean going buck wild. And btw the wedding toppers in my image is an actual sculpture of our faces by an artist not just a figurine that resemble our likeness.
@sorrycharlie: I’ve seen a lot about those cash bars lol… I am actually doing the cocktail hour and the reception dinner will then be cash
Post # 11
@lwilliams107: she was just asking a question.
Post # 12
I like this post 🙂
Here is my “off beat” things:
-Friday night wedding
-Break dancers at the reception
-Might have a Choreographed dance for the wedding party and us
-Not doing Save-The-Date Cards
-Having Rehersal Dinner at home with drinks, finger foods, music, and games.
I think thats all 🙂
Post # 13
We had a MORNING ceremony
Had BRUNCH –
living is South Texas most of our family members were like “Gasp – where’s the BBQ” so…..
IMMEDIATE family only! no Aunts, Uncles, Cousins
The guys wore WHITE tuxes
There were a LOT of other things that we did different (for our area) but everyone liked them…. =)
Paper Flowers Bouquets & Decor
Guys Wore Chucks
used Vinyl Records as Decor
No Cake…. cupcakes insted
and had Worship in our Ceremony before Darling Husband and I took Communion Together (not Catholic)
I think that’s about it….. yea… and it was Perfect for us! =)
Post # 14
@helenberrycrunch: Thanks for pointing that out 🙂
Post # 15
We’re forcing guests to eat at picnic tables -fancy ass picnic tables (like adirondac chairs, but picnic tables). I say forcing, because only my 78 year old grandmother is being offered a chair.
We’re having our reception at a conservation area by a trout pond. There will be bugs -apparently bugs are very worrysome to some people
There’s no seating plan
No dancing No speeches No headtable (in case you missed that my shoes will be perfectly suited for the dancing part of the evening BECAUSE THERE IS NO DANCING….and our first dance song will be the crickets chirping -yes, crickets are bugs)
I might walk down the aisle with the groom (I say might because this is causing a hell of alot of drama). We’ve been together for 10 years…do you really think I need daddy to give me away?
Our brothers are not in our wedding party, but will be signing our marriage licence
Cupcakes (not that this will shock you bees, but it floored my grandmother who got me some god ugly cake cutting knife)
…oh, I am sure there is more, but I’ll leave you all to digest this
Post # 16
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