(Closed) Love my 'maids so much, can't pick a MOH… is this crazy of me?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1548 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Instead of having one Maid/Matron of Honor or multiple MOHs, why not ask each girl what they would like to do. Maybe 2 girls can take the responsibility of the bachelorette party and 2 can do the shower and 1 do a speech and 1 hold your bouqet.

Post # 4
3039 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@AmyFarrahFowler:+1, I think it’s a great idea to ask them about these things!


Also, I’m “just” having two bridesmaids. Since they are both close friends, I would have felt awkward appointing one of them as the Maid/Matron of Honor. So far this has worked great, with both girls being very excited and involved.  

Post # 5
4518 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I love this approach. I’ve always been uncomfortable with singling out one friend as the “best.”

As far as duties go, I actually found that there were no duties that I needed a maid of honor for. For things like the bachelorette and bridal shower, one or some of your friends will either step up and offer to host that or not…same as if you had a Maid/Matron of Honor. Little stuff during the ceremony, like holding your bouquet, will be covered by the Bridesmaid or Best Man who’s standing closest to you. This can be determined by height,if you want. There’s really noting that a Maid/Matron of Honor needs to “do,” at least not in my experience.

Post # 7
603 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@jwdesiree:  tell them all that you love them all equally & cannot pick so there is no maid of honour….

Post # 8
1507 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

usually for bridal parties people place their maids in order from favorite to um… least favorite, for lack of better words. in your case since you dont have any particular favorites, i suggest lining them up behind you from tallest to shortest, or visa versa. then, the tallest/shortest (whoever is closest to you) will hold your bouquet and fix your train on your big day. then you can split up the other duties between the other ladies… but try to kind of spread the duties out so that one person doesnt end up paying a whole bunch and the other has a free ride. i am so sorry for the poor grammar, no capitoliations, and anything else wrong in here. my phone doesnt cooperate well with weddingbee. good luck . 

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