posted 4 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: who should i choose?
    ex husband : (3 votes)
    8 %
    current husband : (36 votes)
    92 %
  • Post # 2
    54 posts
    Worker bee

    Your current husband deserves to be with someone who loves HIM and not with a wife that loves someone else.

    You left your ex for a reason. Many in fact: He stopped trying emotionally, physically and financially in our marriage. He made me feel crazy when i was upset, was lazy, made me feel hard to love. He said some unforgivable things, and made me more angry than anyone

    Why would you want to go back to that?

    To answer your question: none. You need to be alone to figure what is it that you want

    • This reply was modified 3 years, 8 months ago by  Khaleesy.
    Post # 3
    5035 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2017

    I agree with PP. I can’t vote because I feel like you shouldn’t be with either man.

    Post # 4
    190 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2018

    I agree with the previous posters…I vote for neither

    Post # 5
    498 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    What you need is to be alone and figure out what you want. Your ex sounds like a jerk, and your husband deserves to be with some one who loves him.

    Post # 6
    2176 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2016


    Post # 7
    6841 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2016

    I agree with the PPs: neither.

    Post # 8
    386 posts
    Helper bee

    why did you get married again if you had feelings for somebody else? 

    Post # 9
    840 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Your ex treated you like shit it sounds. You need to go to therapy to sort out why youre idealizing it in your head. Dont blow it with #2 if you can manage.

    Post # 10
    539 posts
    Busy bee

    It’s amazing you don’t have a ‘Neither’ option. Why not? I find it hard to imagine you haven’t at least considered that maybe you’re not supposed to be with either man, given what you’ve expressed here. i.e. neither relationship sounds fulfilling for you.


    Post # 11
    4548 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Another vote for neither. You need to be on your own for a while and sort out your own stuff.

    Post # 12
    4085 posts
    Honey bee

    Neither. Focus on yourself. 

    Post # 13
    1165 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    Neither man. Sorry, but you shouldn’t have gotten married if you’re madly in love with your ex. I get the idea of always having a special place in your heart for your first love, but still being madly in love with him is a different story. Your current husband deserves a wife who only has room to love him. You should consider therapy, it sounds like you have some things you should focus on and work through.

    Post # 14
    356 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2019

    You should be by yourself.

    – you left your first husband for a reason, if it was bad enough to get divorced then I don’t see it working the second time. Try to remember the reasons you left rather than looking back with rose tinted glasses.

    – Your current husband sounds lovely and he’s done nothing wrong, but he deserves better than being second choice. You need to let him go so that he can be loved the way he deserves to be.

    You need to figure out why you married your second husband if you still love your first. If you knowingly married him knowing you loved someone else that’s at best a sign of massive insecurity and at worst is extremely selfish. I think you need to work on yourself and figure out what you need. 

    Post # 15
    1326 posts
    Bumble bee

    A resounding neither. 

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