Post # 1
Hi my name is Jess.
I was married to the love of my life for 3 years.
He was everything to me, until he stopped being there for me.
He stopped trying emotionally, physically and financially in our marriage. He made me feel crazy when i was upset, was lazy, made me feel hard to love. He said some unforgivable things, and made me more angry than anyone. However, we had fun together, great memories, his son, his family, and major connections. We had a business together and went through a lot of trials together. I left him, closed the business, and met someone new.
The someone new, he is an old friend of mine. Always been there for me. He loves me more than anything, treats me like a queen, and is always thinking of me. I married the second man.
Hes from Egypt and he is very trustworthy, loyal, and sweet.
However, my problem is that i am still madly in love with my ex husband. I still think of him daily. I still feel like hes my other half, my “person”.
What do i do?
Throw away a man who adores me for someone who i adore, but doesnt know how to love me? Both men love me, both men want a life with me. Both men know about my confusion, both meen are the same age.
Post # 2
Your current husband deserves to be with someone who loves HIM and not with a wife that loves someone else.
You left your ex for a reason. Many in fact: He stopped trying emotionally, physically and financially in our marriage. He made me feel crazy when i was upset, was lazy, made me feel hard to love. He said some unforgivable things, and made me more angry than anyone
Why would you want to go back to that?
To answer your question: none. You need to be alone to figure what is it that you want
Post # 3
I agree with PP. I can’t vote because I feel like you shouldn’t be with either man.
Post # 4
I agree with the previous posters…I vote for neither
Post # 5
What you need is to be alone and figure out what you want. Your ex sounds like a jerk, and your husband deserves to be with some one who loves him.
Post # 7
I agree with the PPs: neither.
Post # 8
why did you get married again if you had feelings for somebody else?
Post # 9
Your ex treated you like shit it sounds. You need to go to therapy to sort out why youre idealizing it in your head. Dont blow it with #2 if you can manage.
Post # 10
It’s amazing you don’t have a ‘Neither’ option. Why not? I find it hard to imagine you haven’t at least considered that maybe you’re not supposed to be with either man, given what you’ve expressed here. i.e. neither relationship sounds fulfilling for you.
Post # 11
Another vote for neither. You need to be on your own for a while and sort out your own stuff.
Post # 12
Neither. Focus on yourself.
Post # 13
Neither man. Sorry, but you shouldn’t have gotten married if you’re madly in love with your ex. I get the idea of always having a special place in your heart for your first love, but still being madly in love with him is a different story. Your current husband deserves a wife who only has room to love him. You should consider therapy, it sounds like you have some things you should focus on and work through.
Post # 14
You should be by yourself.
– you left your first husband for a reason, if it was bad enough to get divorced then I don’t see it working the second time. Try to remember the reasons you left rather than looking back with rose tinted glasses.
– Your current husband sounds lovely and he’s done nothing wrong, but he deserves better than being second choice. You need to let him go so that he can be loved the way he deserves to be.
You need to figure out why you married your second husband if you still love your first. If you knowingly married him knowing you loved someone else that’s at best a sign of massive insecurity and at worst is extremely selfish. I think you need to work on yourself and figure out what you need.