(Closed) Love/hate (feeling inadequate), etc.

posted 6 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Do you ever feel inadequate after reading the Wedding Bee boards?
    I'm right there with you. These brides are crafty geniuses, and I'm more like a 3rd grader. : (25 votes)
    58 %
    Not at all. I'm the second coming of Martha Stewart. : (10 votes)
    23 %
    Meh. I believe in buying, not making. : (8 votes)
    19 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    267 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I’m somewhere in the middle! I love crafting, but my skill/patience level is fairly low. I am very good at cutting things out and gluing them together, haha!

    I intentionally pick projects that I know I’ll be able to handle (making tissue paper poms, embellishing escort cards, painting signs to direct our guests, designing – BUT NOT PRINTING – our paper products). That keeps me from getting too frustrated, and I still get to have a creative outlet.

    Post # 5
    Member
    5547 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Oh yes. I am actually pretty crafty but I didn’t hand sew my invites with the tears of unicorns and cloud fluff either, I ordered them online. Meh. They got the information to people so I think they worked fine. So even if Martha wouldn’t approve, it worked for me. 

     And the etiquette police make me hysterical sometimes too. Some social circles function differently and thus was is a huge faux paus to you is what everyone is someone else’s circle does so don’t berate them for it! 

    Post # 6
    Member
    7412 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    Nope, I’m not DIYer. I don’t have an attachment to making things a “personal” statement by using my hands. I can also using my fingers to buy it LOL. Anything that I end up DIYing is soley a matter of cost savings. It has got to be a signifcant savings in order for me to DIY. But if I think that it will take too much time or effort, than I’ll glady pay a premium. I totally believe that time is money and I’d rather not waste time. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    4194 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    Oh, I had all sort of aspirations for all these fantastic DIY. But then I realized:

    1. Most of the guests wouldn’t notice (flowers on the chairs at the ceremony? Skip!)
    2. I didn’t have the time (we had a short engagement), and
    3. I didn’t want to have a breakdown before the wedding.

    So-I carefully picked my DIY battles. I’m a former graphic designer, so the invites/stationary pieces were a no-brainer to DIY. We did DIY flowers, but I had a Maid/Matron of Honor who had done them for hers and one other wedding, and two other helpers-no way I could have done those myself.

    I *was* going to do faux calligraphy (lightly printed then write over)- didn’t look so hot. So, I hand wrote about ten (older guests), and everyone else (gasp!) had theirs addressed by my laser printer, and the etiquette Gods just had to deal with it. 😉

    When I had another “Oh, I could do…” idea, I just looked at Ryan, and he helped keep me in check.

    Post # 9
    Hostess
    2556 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Girl, I wouldn’t even attempt most of these things some of these brides do!  Anything I touch turns into a MESS!  And, I, too, have a doctorate.  Maybe it’s just not in our blood!

    Post # 10
    Member
    504 posts
    Busy bee

    I love this place but I also know my limitations.

    Post # 12
    Member
    5428 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I hate it when someone says, “anyone can do it” because I am not just “anyone”… LOL And it’s NOT easy! ARGH! I get you 100% But I torture myself by looking at them anyway!

    Post # 14
    Member
    9142 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    I am…gasp…using clear labels on my envelopes as well.  I have terrible handwriting, I refuse to ask a friend to do it for free, and I refuse to pay somebody to write on an envelope that will just go in the trash.  No need to feel inadequate.  Spend your time and energy on stuff that really will be noticed.  I ordered my invitations online from Vistaprint for $27; much better than the hours I slaved over 100 DIY invitations the first time I got married.

    Post # 16
    Member
    2854 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @KelannaDC:  I am an attorney with an MA as well. You don’t have to feel inadequate. Start your project in front of some people who are good at “arty” stuff. Mess it up and make sure you have a completely helpless look on your face. Someone will help and the project will get done.

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