Post # 1
Ok, so I am starting to get a little depressed. Out of close to 90 people we may only end up with under 50 and we will be very lucky if we even get 30! Mind you we are having a Sunday evening ceremony, which I know is tough for people to travel, especialy if they have school age children. But what would you folks do? Should we cancel if by a month before we haven’t even made 30? It stinks b/c we have children, otherwise we would just do everything in Mexico where we will be honeymooning. Any and all advice is wanted. I just don’t want to keep this production running if it’s going to end up turning out to be less than we had planned. HELP
Post # 3
I wouldn’t cancel! It is about you not the guests! Plus, I’ve seen some GORGEOUS small weddings. It allows you to put a little bit more thought into the details and opens up some less expensive options for you like holding your reception at a restaurant instead of an expensive ballroom, or maybe splurging on higher quality catering or favors for a smaller number of people. I say go for it!
Post # 4
I agree-don’t cancel. Your wedding will be smaller and more intimate and you’ll spend less money. Plus, you don’t want to lose any deposits.
Post # 5
That is a huge bummer! There are lots of things to consider here, first of all WHY aren’t people coming? Did a lot of people already have conflicting plans that weekend and just didn’t know about your wedding in time? Are people just not wanting to travel regardless of when it is? Are there more friends (a B list) you initially did not invite due to space or $ that now you could? If it’s a major schedule conflict and you could reschedule without losing a lot of money, I would think about it, IF I knew people would attend the rescheduled date. We had a lot of out of towners decide the travel was just too much (Sunday wedding as well) but we had a big B list of friends who were not offended to be invited a little later in the process. Good luck, this is tough!!
Post # 6
….it totally sucks that you’re getting a small turn out, but focus on who is coming and your marriage, not who is not coming. Cancelling sounds like martyr syndrome to me, be upset, be disappointed, sulk and then get over it, cancelling isn’t going change those feelings, it will likely lead to regret.
Post # 7
We’re kind of in the same place, we had way less people say they would come than expected. Orginally FH wanted to just go to Mexico just us and get married but I pushed for the wedding. When the RSVPs came in I thought about canceling too, but he convinced me that we can’t now with the money invested.
Post # 8
That does stink but I would definitely not cancel. I think your wedding will be more intimate. Look on the bright side, at least it won’t take you long to speak with everyone :). No matter how big or small your wedding will be, it will be fabulous!
Post # 9
Just think it will be more personal and intimate. Don’t cancel. Just embrace it.
Post # 10
Honestly, if I were a guest that was coming, it would look a little funny to me that you rescheduled. It is NOT about the guest but the bride and groom. DO NOT cancel the wedding or reschedule. Who cares that only 30 people are coming? I had 15 and it was great and any more people to try and please would be too stressful. We wanted an intimate ceremony but honestly if no one else came, just him and I and his parents and sister would have been fine for me. Weddings are not about guests, the amount of gifts, flowers, venues so on and so one, it is about starting your life with the one you love. Nothing else matters.
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2021 - Holy Family Catholic Church, reception: National Infantry Museum
I have to agree with everyone else, don’t cancel! It’s still your day! Embrace those people closest to you and enjoy your day!!
Post # 12
I wouldn’t reschedule. I think you should just have a great time with the guests who are there. Also, you might be able to splurge a little on some budget items if you have fewer people–upgrade your meals or do some more extravagant decorations or something!
Post # 13
Don’t cancel, one of the nicest and beautiful weddings I’ve ever been to was with “only” 30 guests.
Post # 14
Don’t cancel.. it’ll still be special no matter the size. you’ll have more time to spend individually with your guests!