Post # 16
We used these specialized condoms for collecting at least 4 or 5 semen samples. Our lab/doctor wasn’t a fan initially because they had never heard of it before, but we went ahead using it anyways and now they don’t mind. It’s a special non-spermicidal condom for collection. It’s a little pricy but very worth it (similar to the review on Amazon, we did find it fairly small fitting on Darling Husband but it worked). We ended up just using a sterile pair of scissors to snip the end and put the sample into a sterile collection container afterwards to transport to the lab. Here are two places you can buy them: http://www.early-pregnancy-tests.com/semen-collection-condom.html
Hope that helps!
Post # 17
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
AnonTTC: If it is determined that he has a low count, have you discussed whether it’s worth looking into IUI? It’s usually a pretty inexpensive option and it’s not as invasive as other forms of IVF.
Is the lack of cum a new thing or has he always been that way? If it’s a new thing then he should get it checked out ASAP. Either way, has he seen a urologist for this issue? A urologist can diagnose and treat retrograde ejaculation. I used to work for one and he worked in tandem with a fertility clinic for situations just like this one. We would test the male partner’s sperm (ask for a doctor that will look at it themselves if that’s an option) and send out their blood for hormone levels.
Post # 18
MrsFarmer: Thanks for the suggestion. We finally got an appointment scheduled with the doctor to discuss this so I’ll definitely bring it up if they suggest that we keep trying with collection.
beachbride1216: Yes, we’ve discussed both IUI and IVF and he seems on board with almost anything (except surgery, but thats another story). I don’t think the lack of sperm has always been this way but I suspect, based on his responses to my questions, that he has been aware of it for awhile (at least intermittently). I think he’s very worried about letting me down so he’s sensitive about it, often giving me very limited responses when I ask him questions. Since our next appointment with the fertility doc isn’t for a couple more months, I’ve asked him to make an appointment with his GP to see if he can move things along by referring him to a urologist. The appointments with the fertility doc are always super long wait so the more we can prepare beforehand, I’m hoping the quicker we can get this figured out.
Post # 19
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
AnonTTC: Maybe a trip to a fertility counselor will help him feel better about the issue and open up more? It’s tough issue to deal with, esepcailly if he thinks that he’s the one with the issue preventing pregnancy.
Post # 20
beachbride1216: Thats a good suggestion, thanks. I’ll have to see what we have available for fertility councellors around here. If not, maybe I’ll see if I can find an all-male forum online where he can ask questions.
Post # 21
AnonTTC: Hey there…I’m sort of in the same situation as you with low semen volume (<=1 ml). What did come out had good counts (70 million) and motility but average morphology (7%). We were told that as far as something comes out and has a decent sperm count, volume is not even an issue. We are onto out 7th month of TTC and I’m getting a bit concerned here. I’m curious if your husband did have a confirmed diagnosis with retrograde ejaculation. If so, how did they go about figuring it out? My husband has been drinking tons of water and FertilityBlend as advised by our GP. We’ll retest in a bit. I’ll update you then. Hope things work out well for both us!
Post # 22
Need to vent out on an extreme urgent basis:
If there is anyone going through double trouble: PCOS and also issues with Darling Husband sperm count etc PLEASE PM me
two and a half years of just trying for a baby! and in less than one day I hear about two babies. One of my friends just had a baby girl yesterday. She has two boys already. Her marriage is awful with the husband beating her whenever he wants but she still loves him too much to leave him and now I just saw the pictures of the new baby on FB with comments like congrats your family is completed. Argh :@ Don’t get me wrong, but with a drunkard abusive husband who also happens to be the chain smoker, I keep on wondering why my non-drinking, non-smoking Darling Husband had to be the one with zero rapid sperm I’ve already had some great cycles with amazing O and 2-3 healthy eggs atleast 6-8 times since we’ve been trying and it just breaks my heart
Moving on, a cousin of mine is also expecting. She already has two daughters and now she wants a boy! She’s pretty overweight and has been TTC for this one for atleast quite a while. Although she didnt even tell me directly but I found out through my sister. I kept on thinking that people CHOOSE to have kids and want a SPECIFIC gender either a boy or a girl to COMPLETE their families. And here I’m being so agitated and totally desperate to have ONE baby be it a boy or a girl. What kind of justice is this
having an emotional meltdown
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Post # 23
Gypsygal6: Hey sorry to hear about your troubles, hope things work out for you soon! Not knowing is so frustrating. Where we’re from, there’s only one fertility clinic around so the wait between appointments is pretty long. We’re still waiting on confirmation with the retrograde ejaculation (RE). He goes for his test this week and then we find out the results (and subsequent options) in October. After describing various symptoms with the fertility doc though, he said he was fairly certain thats what it was. Basically he told us that if the tests come back RE then he said our best option would be to do invitro.
The retrograde test they’re giving him involves him taking bicarb for two days to neutralize his urine. Then they get him to go into the office and give a sperm sample and then right afterwards, urinate in a cup. If they find sperm in the small semen sample, great, but if they find sperm in his urine instead, that means RE (traveling into his bladder instead of out his urethra). So long as the sperm themselves are in good shape, then we can do the invitro if we decide to.
Have you done any other fertility testing besides your husband’s sperm count? In talking to my (very pregnant) pharmacist who was awesome because she went through two years of fertility treatment, she relayed that most times the docs will recommend doing small measures in the beginning which is why she felt they wasted a lot of time getting to the root of her fertility issues. She told me if we think it may be something, ask them for more testing instead of waiting for them to do it.
Good luck to you and keep me posted! Hope you have good results!
Post # 24
Rabia: I’ve also got the double trouble. 2 and a half years is a long time so I can understand your frustrations. I have a cousin with a crazy ex-gf and other personal issues and often wonder how is it fair that these two, who can barely take care of themselves, get to have two beautiful children by accident and we struggle? It just doesn’t seem right.
What have you been doing so far in terms of fertility testing? By a couple things you mentioned in your message its sounds like you’ve had some, but I couldn’t quite tell what you’ve had done.
I find PCOS to be such a fickle thing. Like there’s no knowing from one PCOS person to the next who will have fertility issues and who won’t. Its nice to be able to vent on a forum like this because even if you’re happy for the other couples, its hard not to feel those twangs of frustration.
I know when my Darling Husband and I started down the fertility route we talked alot about being careful with not letting this weigh too heavily on us. Its not easy but we know of two couples who split because they let it affect their relationship so we’re consciously making the effort to not let it get too bad. By no means am I implying this about you, I’m just saying I get why you need to vent. Have you looked into other options like adoption?
Where we’re from both fertility treatment and adoption are lengthy processes so we’re going down both routes at the same time. After going to our first adoption meeting, apparently its not uncommon to do this.
Well I hope you can get some answers soon and am even more hopeful that you’ll soon be the one with the exciting news. Hang in there!
Post # 25
AnonTTC: sending lots of hugs your way. Intially, we didn’t know DH’s zero rapid sperm. The regular sperm tests arent so elaborate apparently. Two years ago, we found out that he has low sperm count and he took alot of meds to get the count up. Things looked better for us last year. We already had consulted a fertility clinic that surprisingly told us we both are normal and should not really have to go for anything at all. But we wanted to give IUI a try. 1. it’s not that expensive. 2. We thought it would probably give us the result we wanted. But just a few days before our IUI, we had a stand-off with one of the ultrasonologists who did my TVS and told me that my eggs were of wrong size, we eventually found that she was wrong so we decided to move to another fertility clinic which is where everything changed for us. On the day of our IUI, the clinic took my husband’s sample and after an hour they told us we are not eligible for the procedure as he had zero rapid sperm. All this happened, a day before my birthday 🙁 🙁 🙁
They put my husband on Proxeed Plus and some other supplements. Even a month later, his reports were same and then we were told we should try ICSI. But we don’t have that much to spend at the moment and there is no such thing as any medical insurance to help us cover expenses ( not a thing in my country).
No urologists are giving us any kind of hope. We’ve kind of moved on to homeopathic medication to see if it works for my husband.
I know what you mean by cutting a wedge in the marriage. It’s really hard for both of us and honestly sometimes I wonder why I’m sticking out with the possibility of not ever having a child with him but then I think that I’m going to pull through and I love him so much that I cant bear not to have him with me 🙁
I hate all those highly abnormal couples who keep on popping babies on a regular basis…argh! and then those questions about when we’d have one of our own. I dont get people, they expect you to tell them your problems related to TTCing…really annoys me.