(Closed) Lunch wedding end time

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is ending a lunch wedding at 5:00 rude?
    No way! : (29 votes)
    83 %
    No, but only if you clearly indicate it on the invitations and programs : (6 votes)
    17 %
    Yes, you should continue the dancing until 7:00 : (0 votes)
    Yes, you should continue the dancing until 8:00 : (0 votes)
    Having a lunch wedding at all is rude : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Honestly I think ending at 5 is perfect and extending it much longer would be a little rude! If you’re feeding them lunch and then they’re dancing… if they are staying until 7 or 8 its like almost time to feed them again! lol. I wouldn’t want to stay that late personally. I do think maybe mentioning the time on the invite might be good though just because lunch receptions are less common and if I were a guest I’d have no idea what to expect. 

    Post # 4
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    That’s pretty much identical to our timeline also!!  So no, I don’t think it’s rude at all, especially since there is a medical reason.  If your guest think it’s rude, then I think THEY are rude!

    We were also thinking of inviting everyone to an upscale lounge type venue afterwards around 8 for people who want to carry on the party, but we’re asking our band to end at 5pm.  We won’t leave before our guests though since we would just be going home or to the hotel.

    Post # 5
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    4137 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    that’s PLENTY of time! mine is 11-4:30 and according to our venue, everyone has to be out at 4:30. i doubt most people will even stay that long, and we’re having dancing with a live band.

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I don’t think I would stick around after you left at 5.  Lunch was at 1, by 5, dinnertime is fast approaching. 

    Post # 7
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Have you explained clearly to your mom why you do not want to continue with the dancing?  Also, I agree with some of the previous posts, if you continue on too long, it would almost be rude not feeding your guests supper as well!  It would definitely be okay in my point of view to end at 5:00 without stating the time on the invitations!

    Post # 8
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    your ceremony starts at 11 and the reception goes until 5. that’s 6 hours. tell your mom to think about it this way: pretend the wedding starts at 5pm. 6 hours later is 11pm…that’s definitely the average reception end-time!

    Post # 10
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    Busy Beekeeper

    your time line is almost the same as mine (except i start later) and i am glad to hear, but i was a LITTLE worried mine was too short. i am having ceremony at 4pm, then dinner 5-7, then dancing 7 – 10. i having a destination wedding and so apparently all event have to end by 10pm.

    but the way you laid it out sounds perfect and as a guest, i wouldn’t its awkward or rude or anything.  i would probably plan to enjoy a relaxing evening!

     

    EDIT: I voted the first option, then noticed the second option after, which i think would be nice to do – put it on the invitations OR at least on the programs for the day.  on my invitations i only put the start time. but when i make programs to hand out on the day, i will indicate the end times

    Post # 11
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    115 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I don’t think it would be rude at all. The lunch/dancing would be four hours long, which is typical for receptions.

    Post # 12
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Actually, that’s a long day. Our ceremony is at 10:30, the brunch reception starts at II and ends at 3. That’s already a long day. It might go by quickly for you, but your guests might want to escape a little earlier than 5.

    Post # 13
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Personally, if you ended your wedding any time after 5:00 I’d be leaving anyway because I’d be getting hungry.  Plus, if the bride and groom were gone I wouldn’t really want to linger anyway.  Just make sure you clearly indicate on the invitations when the party is supposed to end to avoid confusion.

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    What?? Most guests will be ready to go home after a long day. Few people stay til the very end, regardless of what time it is… you’ll be fine ending at 5!!

    Post # 15
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    7695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think ending at 5 is plenty of time!

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