- 5 years ago
Hello all… so about 2 weeks ago I actually made an account here and was planning an intro post..
I guess I can still do that. Im 35, boyfriend is 36. I have never been married, he was married once (he was young and given an ultimatum). We have been together almost 4 years (July will be 4yrs). We moved a little fast – but we just clicked. We talked early on, when things started progressing, about marriage. He has always been a negative nancy when it comes to marriage (his ex wife is not the most pleasant) and I figured it best to see if we were on the same page or not. From the get go I said to him that If he knows that he does not want to get married again, and I know that I do want to get married -then there would be no point in us staying together-someone would be bound to get hurt/or feel resentful to the other person. He agreed, and said that yes-he would get married again some day.
I never thought too much about it because I was still going to school (work full time, school part time) and always said when school was done then I would worry about that stuff. Well fast forward and I am done with school and marriage is on my brain a little bit. A year and a half ago I mentioned to him that I could see in the next 3 years getting engaged. He had said that was reasonable. Nothing more had been said. Well about 3 months ago the topic was coming up a bit more-and I finaly decided to shut my mouth up about it.
Until last week…. lol. I asked the fellow if he remembers the talk about being engaged within the 3 years… was that still reasonable to him-like it was when I first mentioned it. He is a big joker- and said “well, what-that means I still have a year and half to go? Yep, that works for me”… THEN-(keep in mind this man knows me inside and out-can read me like a book)-he says I am going to show you something so that all those questions in your head will be quiet… and shows me a picture on his phone of a ring and tells me he has been looking!!! I swear my heart almost jumped out of my chest. I kissed him and told him thats all I needed to hear. However-once he started talking he did not shut up lol. I got to hear all about the visit and how rings are expensive, and you know there is more to consider.. there is cut, clarity, carat…. and on and on he went lol
I have been dying to tell people-but won’t (well aside from my best friend and my mom)-and thought this place would be good to let my excitement out. Yes he is only looking – but it is a great step in a great direction! Plus-per the convo-I have a slight inkling that the picture he showed me was the ring and he might have purchased it or is possibly making payments.
So…ya. there it is …. It feels good to type that out. I don’t want to get all excited in the real world just yet ya know?
Hope everyone is having a great Thursday!