Post # 1
So, I was raised United Methodist, my fiance is Catholic, and we’ve decided to get married at an awesome Lutheran church with a fantastic minister…some of my family also attends there. My mom isn’t being supportive because, though she was raised Lutheran, she attends a Methodist church with my dad and doesn’t believe that Lutherans should be picky and choosy about who takes Communion. I addressed my own Communion beliefs with our Lutheran pastor and my FH and I both feel really confident in our decision. But when I told my mom, she seemed pretty unsupportive and feels like the minister is telling us he’s right and everyone else is wrong. While I can see how she might think that, I don’t feel the minister is being condescending in any way, just purporting his own beliefs and that of the Lutheran church. It comes down to this…I was SUPER excited when we left our initial meeting with the Lutheran pastor, but now that my mom isn’t exstatically happy for us, I’m questioning our decision. Has this happened to you, or have you any thoughts? Thanks 🙂
Post # 3
I’m a bit conused. I was raised Lutheran and the only enforced rule about communion in our church is that you have to be confirmed (basically high school aged) to take it. Other than that, the Pastor does not interfer with people that want to take Communion. They obviously have rules about it, but he doens’t run around during Communion telling people they can and cannot take it.
What types of beliefs about Communion is he going to enforce for the wedding?
Post # 4
Well, they don’t go around asking everyone if they’ve been confirmed, but it does say in the bulletin that if you don’t adhere to the beliefs of the Evangelical Lutheran Church of America, Missouri Synod, they request that you abstain from Communion. I was raised Methodist, where there is Open Communion, meaning anyone wishing to take it is allowed to, so I was not raised believing that anyone should be denied Communion; I also never had the opportunity to be confirmed since our church was so small. The pastor will be educating us on the beliefs of the Lutheran church regarding this issue and told us after this education period he would serve us Communion on our wedding day, and as members of the church (we have to join to get married there – not sure how I feel about that, but I do really like the pastor).
Post # 5
There is different “kinds” of Lutherans. The Missouri Synod is one of the “stricter” ones, in contrast the ELCA is not as “strict.” I suspect this would apply to communion.
Post # 6
@red_rose: I agree; I was raised in an ELCA church. We were completely open to anyone who believed in Christ as their Savior receiving communion. Actually, the only time I’ve ever encountered being unable to take communion was when I was in a Catholic church (you can’t take communion during mass unless you completed catholic confirmation classes). However, I’m unaware of many Missouri Synod practices, other than the general belief that their practices tend to be “stricter.”
Post # 7
I was raised in the Wisconsin synod and then switched to Missouri synod later. Wisoconsin is stricter than Missouri, but in a Wisconsin synod church (I am pretty sure) you need to be confirmed in that particular synod to take communion. Confirmed members are free to take communion at any time. A visiting member from another Wisconsin synod church would need to speak with the pastor before taking communion at another church where they are not a member.
Just how I remember things going 🙂
Post # 8
Hmm. That does seem odd to me. I’m Baptist and have always practiced “Christian” communion where they say that one should only have accepted Christ to take communion, it doesn’t matter where or what denomnation it was. Though honestly is the pastor going to be asking to see everyone’s confirmation certificates or whatever before they take communion at a wedding?
Post # 9
I was have been non-denom growing up (my choice- non of my family attended church, only me) However, I am now lutheran. It was strange to me in the beginning coming from a church where all are welcome to commune to only confirmed believers “allowed” was very odd. But I did learn, and I am surprised that your pastor did not explain this to you. in 1 cor 11:17-34 it speaks about the lords supper. this is one reason why people see us as “strict”. In the scripture is shows that taking communion without understanding is dangerous. However, in my church we do not refuse you coming to the alter, but instead encourage you to come for prayer. Hope this helps. I can explain further if wanted. =D
Post # 10
I have been non-denom growing up (my choice- none of my family attended church, only me) However, I am now lutheran. It was strange to me in the beginning coming from a church where all are welcome to commune to only confirmed believers “allowed” was very odd. But I did learn, and I am surprised that your pastor did not explain this to you. in 1 cor 11:17-34 it speaks about the lords supper. this is one reason why people see us as “strict”. In the scripture is shows that taking communion without understanding is dangerous. However, in my church we do not refuse you coming to the alter, but instead encourage you to come for prayer. Hope this helps. I can explain further if wanted. =D