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Post # 17
217 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Well I am a doctor and I still put M_______ Partly because all the wedding samples I looked at had it. I think it is just invitation tradition, so I try not to read into it.

Post # 19
937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

In my rookie wedding-going days, I never understood what it was even for. I think you’re right, that it is more “formal,” but I don’t think that means you have to have it if you don’t want it. 

Post # 20
44 posts
  • Wedding: January 2017

I didn’t use the ‘M’ with my RSVP cards. Personally- I found them weird and out of place next to my scribble writing. Annoyed me to no end that my writing didn’t match up with this over-blown fancy M stuck on my card.

I actually filled out peoples names on the card. I know my family and the rest of my guest. They’d want to literally do the least amount possible. So all they have to do is put a check if they are attending or not and drop it off in the mail.

Post # 21
205 posts
Helper bee

legallyblondebride88 :  I was a bit curt as I replied on my lunch break –  at no point would the M be considered a faux pas! It’s just one of those things.


My best friend from graduate school delivered her invitation to me at my fiance’s PhD graduation dinner. I jokingly crossed out the M and wrote in “Drs.” Me and Him, although obviously with just a blank we’d’ve put in our names with no title whatsoever. It’s just too much fun to mess around when formality is presented. As others have said, you’re mainly just asking for jokes when less-formal guests are involved.

Post # 22
3521 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

legallyblondebride88 :  also as someone who is about to earn her doctorate – I hate the M. The last invitation I got that had it on the RSVP card I filled out as “masters of awesome, our names.” I hate the presumption of (1) using titles, and (2) that Mr should then come before “Doctor”

Post # 23
677 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I wouldn’t leave it blank- it isn’t uncommon to get cards back without names, and the more you can do to prevent that problem, the better. However, I think the M is a bit confusing and too formal. 

It’s probably completely improper, but we just put 


followed by “___ seat(s) reserved in your honor”

Fi’s cousin’s invite are written the same way. 

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