Post # 1
SO and I just got home from a vacation in sunny California. I thought for sure we would be getting engaged on that trip. We picked out a ring 6 months ago, and I know SO already bought it. Much to my dissapointment, nothing happened. I even made a point to mention it to him, which left me feeling stupid for thinking it was going to happen. Not to mention bruising my ego…….
Anyway, I went out this past Saturday with a few friends of mine. I happened to run into a friend of SO’s. He asked to see my finger. It took me a minute to catch on to what he was saying. And as soon as he knew I had figured it out, and my fingers were bare, the look on his face told me he just made a BIG mistake! He proceeded to tell me that he was told that my SO was going to propose on our trip!
So, I of course told SO what I had heard, which left him furious with aforementioned “friend”, and left me bewildered, and my mid racing with questions. SO had said that he was nervous to take the ring on the plane, and have his bags inspected with me standing right there. So, why didn’t he think of this before he went and told all his friends?! Why did he change his mind? When is he planning on doing it? How long is he going to wait now that the cat is out of the bag? And where is he hiding it? (not that I’d look, as I know what he bought) Did he get cold feet? AHHHHHHHHHH!
Post # 3
Sorry you had a disappointing weekend. I’m sure it must be hard to get your hopes up and have to wait. Do you know how long he’s had the ring? Maybe for most of the six months he’s been saving the money, and just got it recently.
While I guess I can’t say for sure it wasn’t that he was “rethinking”, I doubt it. He bought the ring. He obviously told his friends he was proposing. Try not to stress. It sounds like it’s going to happen soon. And try not to talk about it. It might ruiin his surprise.
Post # 4
That’s a frustrating situation. I would try to drop the subject for a while until your man gets over his little jitters, he probably just wants everything to be perfect. Here’s hoping it’s soon!!
Post # 5
it sounds like he was just worried about the logistics of the ring and keeping it a surprise. he’s probably just going to wait until he thinks up another good proposal. don’t be upset, he has the ring, you know it’s coming soon!
Post # 6
Yea I would drop it for now. Let him do it his way when he is ready. Try not to put preasure or over analyze! Its coming 🙂
Post # 7
I am sorry, I would be frustrated too. I would try to take time to calm down and focus on yourself for a while. It sounds like he will propose anytime now.
Post # 8
I would agree with everybody else it sounds like it is definitely coming soon and dont stress at least you know that he is discussing it with his friends which is always a good sign.
Post # 9
I’m sorry that you’re expectations were let down, but also take a step back and remember “popping the question” is CRAZY STRESSFUL for guys. Your SO probably did freak about silly things like airport security, and it has nothin to do with you at all. He’s also probably pissed at his friend because now you’re upset with the let-down of the supposed vacation engagement, and your SO’s thinking, “well, what NOW?” Of course he doesn’t want you to be upset, but he’s also probably trying to figure out a way to fix it.
Just vent to us, don’t mention anything more to your SO, and just be your regular sweet self. With the tempers down, he’ll probably propose sooner rather then later. Good luck!
Post # 10
aww its totally coming!! Maybe he just felt like the time wasnt just right..you gotta remember this is the guys day to shine (like the wedding day is the girls day..) and maybe it just wasnt what he wanted your proposal to be..who knows though..guys are weird like that lol. At least he has your ring and it will be soon! You are farther along than me dear 🙂