(Closed) Mad at FI – should i be?

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I would be upset, too.  I think if it were me, I would wait and see how the whole thing goes before you decide whether you’re really going to be seriously upset.  The difference could be:

a) if things go ok, you may feel like you’re mad because he disrespected your plans, and you tell him so, but maybe you don’t make a huge deal of it if things basically go ok.

b) if he looks hungover and you look puffy, you allow yourself to have a serious talk with him about it.

Does he do stuff like this a lot?  That is another consideration.  I guess by “a lot” I mean does he do it enough so that it is a pattern.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think you have every right to be upset. He should have respected the fact that you guys are going to be taking your engagement pictures but instead he decided to get wasted. He only thought about himself which to me would upset me. I think you guys need to talk things over and make sure this doesn’t happen again.

Post # 6
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82 posts
Worker bee

To give him some credit, he was showered, dressed, and ready to go when he needed to be.  it sounds like cumulatively you’re under a lot of stress and are probably a little vulnerable to having your feelings upset. 

Post # 7
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521 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Yes, you did.  He showered and was ready on time.  You told him it was ok to go out, and you’re basically upset that he did?  You overreacted.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

He was ready on time and willing to go, you were the one who decided not to go. I think you overreacted.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@ KateMW-I see “we decided not to go”, where does it say she decided not to? I’m confused. lol.

I think you were right to be upset. I wouldn’t want my Fiance hungover in our e-pics, but maybe you should have asked him in advance not to get wasted? Give him some credit for at least getting ready on time. Not many guys would!

Post # 10
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Newbee

I think that I would be upset at him, but I would also be mad at myself for being mad at him.  I would be so upset that I thought he wasn’t taking it seriously, but at the same time, he was up and ready to go, so technically he did nothing wrong, which is why I would be angry at me for being angry at him.  Yikes!  Hopefully he learned his lesson and when you guys are ready to try again you will both be bright and fresh and shiny for them!  

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper

I think it’s natural to be upset, but you might be a smidge TOO upset. Just a smidge.

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