- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
My wedding is in less than 6 weeks–July 25th. I made my two older sisters my bridesmaids instead of asking any of my friends, because we wanted to keep the wedding party small and simple, and I knew if they weren’t involved my sisters would have been offended. However it seems like they can’t be bothered to do a single thing for me! I live 2000 miles away from them and from where my wedding is going to be, so I understand that logistics are hard. However I tried to make everything easy for them–I am not having a bridal shower and I let them pick whatever dresses they wanted, as long as they were some shade of purple.
There are a few things I’m mad about. First of all, even though I asked them to do so months ago, they have only gotten it together to get their dresses in the past week. And they are pink–when the only thing I asked them was that they be some shade of purple. At this point everything is purple and ivory, and their pink dresses might look weird. But they found something that suits both of their senses of vanity, so I feel like I just have to roll over and accept whatever they decide. Plus it’s kind of too late now to do anything else.
The second thing is–I was planning on flying up to New York this weekend (where they all live) to go to a charity event my sister is putting on. I planned to have a little bachelorette party with my friends on one of the nights. But my sister guilt-tripped me so hard about it, saying that she would really need my help both nights, that I just said forget it.
I feel so pissed at them–they are the worst bridesmaids ever! They haven’t helped with a single thing, even though they live where I am having the wedding! I know part of the problem is that I just am a doormat with them–I am the youngest and I always just fold to their wishes. But this is MY wedding, and I wish they would act like it! They talk all the time about how they are going to look at the wedding, whether they are going to look fat, how they should do their hair, etc. and what is going on in their lives, with their kids and whatnot to me. I don’t think that the world should stop because I’m getting married, but I’d like a little bit of special treatment! Instead it’s like I am just the little sister that doesn’t matter, as usual. The wedding day is going to be all about them and my mother, that’s how it feels to me. Issues with my mother would be a whole separate post and too long to even get into.
Ugh! Sorry, I just wanted to vent somewhere and I didn’t know where else to write this. I am excited about my wedding and being with my fiance, but I feel annoyed with my family and their lack of help in these last months before the wedding. Maybe this is a good opportunity to learn how to stand up for myself for once though. Anyway if anyone has read this, thank you! I feel a little better after writing it all out.