Post # 1
From day one it had been eating me up to not show FI my dress. Were very involved in each other’s decision making process and look to each other for advice. But for this, I was on my own and as much as I wanted him to be involved, he wanted no part.
So I had an idea, and I should have known it was destined to fail, but didnt listen to my insticnts, I convinced him to let me show him 7 dresses-6 that i actually tried on and like and 1 shaped similarly to mine. All were totally different. Epic fail. The dress most like mine he voted 6th and his 7th was my runner up.
His ranking (in case anyone was curious):
1. Casblanca 1978
2. Essence of Austrailia d1098
3. Matthew Christopher Imagine
4. Badgely Mischka Lucy
5. Justin Alexander 8456
6. Pronovias Bosque
7. Pronovias Pandora
I know I should listen to the men-dont-know-what theyre-talking-about-he-will-love-it-the-day-of ideal but its difficult,
Enter chronic fear…
Post # 3
He is going to think you look stunning on your wedding day. Don’t worry about it! 🙂 I know it’s disappointing to have you FI rank a dress similar to yours not as high as you did, but, at the end of the day you could walk down the aisle in a paper bag & he would be thrilled. 🙂
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2015 - Diplomat Country Club
I promise you he will LOVE your dress and won’t think about any other dress or even remember the other ones. Trust me men are clueless cause when you show them the picture on the model they can’t really imagine it on you. I showed my hubby a dress on a model he hated a few days later i showed it to him on me he was shock when i told him it was the same dress. Take a deep breath you will look stunning on your day 🙂
Post # 5
Did you show him pics of *you* in those dresses, or just the model pics? Because there’s a huge difference between how a specific dress looks on a professional model, where the whole thing has been staged to make the dress look amazing, and how the same dress looks on a specific person. It might be, in the abstract, he prefers those dresses. (Or just something about the photo that makes one more appealing than another.) But that doesn’t mean that he would prefer them on you.
Also, you are going to look awesome and he’s not going to give a crap about the dress. He’s going to be looking at you. 🙂
Post # 6
He will love it when he sees you in it!
Post # 7
@Elvis: it was the model photos, but i told him to ignore the model (not sure how effective that was)
you bees are always so encouraging.
Post # 8
Don’t worry! He’ll totally forget about it by your wedding. The dress is not important, only how you feel in it.
I did a similar thing with my FI, only my dress was actually included. He placed it close to the bottom also!
Post # 9
BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA….Sorry I did this too.
I picked a beautiful princess dress…AND HE HATED IT SO MUCH!!!!
and the dress I hated…HE LOVED
So now I’m starting from scratch and not going with any of the dresses I picked LOL
His advice after I told him about it was, “You showed me the photos of you in these dresses but your hair wasn’t done and it wasn’t the “whole picture”.
Post # 10
Haha I played the same game with FI too!
I think mine might think my train is a little “busy” but too bad. I like it!
Thank goodness it’s not a case where he like despises lace and I got an all-lace gown…
OP, guaranteed.. Your man is not even going to remember the options you showed him.. And when he sees the whole package with hair and makeup all did, the dress is just an accessory.
Post # 11
Don’t worry, he probably just can’t envisage you in the dress as men aren’t good at that sort of thing. I had to have the most girly, sparkly, princess Maggie Sottero dress I could find, and FI at the time was all about me having a simple dress etc, BUT he thought I looked stunning on the day once he saw me in it as it suited me and my look on the day with my hair etc! And also you have to be happy, you chose that dress for a reason. 🙂
Post # 12
Don’t worry about it – I did the same thing only I showed him my actual dress!
I showed him like 5 pages of dresses onoline (1 of which contained my dress) He picked out EVERY dress he remotely liked on every page and never picked mine!
I freaked out and showed him a pic of me in the dress (cut my head off so he wouldn’t see “me” or me with a veil) and he loved it (or said he did!) Your FI will LOVE you in your dress on your wedding day because you will look AMAZING!
And if he doesn’t love your dress? Too bad you’ll still look amazing and he will still think you look amazing, even if he’s not a fan of the dress itself! 😉
Post # 13
I did something like this too, and of course DH liked the gown that I loved the idea of, but in reality it just wasn’t my dress and didn’t look that flattering on me (satin mermaid with bling – I got a lace and tulle ballgown). But on our wedding day he loved my dress, and obviously so did I. I promise it’s completely different when the dress is on you! And it’s not really fair for him to be judging based on the model pics, because a dress can look totally different on the model than on you.