Post # 1
I feel dreadful for writing this.. my bf bought me a ring in south africa.. where apparently diamonds are wonderful and inexpensive.. but it is tiny. i mean teeny weeny. and an odd shape. its very unusual. But no one says they like it. Everyone is very polite, but it looks like a ring a child would wear. We chose our wedidng bands yesterday and as the shape is so unusual we have had to pay an extra £500 to have it shaped to fit. It will then look chunkier, which is more my style, but obv still with teeny diamond. and there will always be a curved outer edge so an eternity ring willhave to me made to fit next to it too.. I am upset because i have just realised that the total cost of having to get the wedding band shaped to fit my e ring comes to less than it would have cost to have a HUGE diamond e ring AND band! The e ring came in a cardboard box with no certification… what can i do?
Post # 3
@vintagewedding: Can you post a pic?
Post # 5
@vintagewedding: was it purchased from a jewellery store? can you post a pic?
Post # 6
Awww 🙁 That sucks. Please post a pic so we can try to find a solution with you. I hope you can get this sorted out.
Post # 7
@vintagewedding: wear it as a RHR? Maybe after seeing ow much hassle it would cause you to wear it properly as an e-ring he’ll get you another one.
Post # 8
@vintagewedding: I picked out my own ring and loved it at first but then realized that its not an enagagement ring and everyone was like oh its cute or nice but not like wow thats a ring. So I went to the store and exchanged it for a similar looking one with bigger stones that gave me the wow factor i was looking for. Is your fiance against you upgrading the ring? The way i explained it to mine was that i loved the ring he got me but I choose too fast without looking at everything and I want a ring that makes me feel beautiful and like an adult (my ring looked very childish too) and can be taken seriously. He wasn’t thrilled with me doing it but he wants me to be happy and was like its your ring.
Post # 9
@vintagewedding: I would wear it as a RHR and wear a wedding band I loved alone.
Post # 10
What you can do depends almost entirely on how your boyfriend feels about the ring and how open he is to different options.
Post # 11
I hope you can get a different ring! It’s easy to make a mistake when buying an engagement ring quickly…and it’s such a significant life-long purchase. It’s worth discussing with your FI and figuring out what you can do.
We would love pictures!
I wore a 0.33 ct solitaire in yellow gold after receiving it as a gift from my bf. People kind of thought it might be an engagement ring, but knew it wasn’t my style at all. I had polite comments such as: “I’m surprised to see someone like you wearing yellow gold. Is it an engagement ring?”
Anyway, we got engaged shortly afterwards, and I chose a large smoky quartz ring. It was awesome, some people realized it was an untraditional e-ring, some had no idea and did not notice it. The quartz got scratched so we ended up choosing a diamond ring. It’s a large vintage setting in platinum. With this baby on, there was no doubt I was engaged. Everyone noticed! It was a wow factor ring, I loved it, my FI loved it. Greatest decision!
Post # 13
a friend of mine got his now wife a very very small engagement ring, because it was all he could afford (living in NYC working as a waiter, she was in grad school to become a teacher). They have not been married for five years and have two gorgeous daughters. He is now a full time nurse, she, a full time teacher. He is taking her ring to be “cleaned” but is really taking the stone and getting it set into her new “engagement” ring for her to wear on her right hand as an anniversary present. I think it is the most romantic and amazing thing ever. I totally hear you about not liking your ring, but it’s just a symbol of your awesome relationship, comittment, and future! It’s an object that can be changed!
Post # 15
@vintagewedding: Hi there! I totally understand, I am south African,and for a moment we thought we would have to buy my ring in SA (we were living in Vietnam at the time ),and the choices were just….well,not pretty or what I want . FI found SA jewellery market to be over-priced, the price my FI got for my 0.59 ct solitaire was the equivalent of a ring that had a 0.29ct centre and a few little diamantes around them. If you tell me the jewellery store name, I could find out if you could do an exchange or something ?I am really sorry you feel this way, but maybe at a later stage you guys can upgrade or something ?
Post # 16