Post # 1
Got a little dilemma here… When I got engaged last summer my FI’s cousin and his gf got engaged shortly after. When she asked me who my Fiance was choosing as his groomsmen I said I thought it would be her bf and their other cousin. She said that her bf (or should I say FI) was also picking my Fiance. So turns out I was wrong, and my Fiance isnt choosing either. His cousin hasn’t asked him to be in their wedding, but I feel like I should clear this up in case his cousin thinks he’s in the wedding. And of course I can’t tell my Fiance about this little mess up cause he may be mad I even mentioned it to him. LOST YET? Lol.
what do you think I should say/do? I was thinking of having them take part in the wedding doing something else so maybe mention it that way, to the girl I blabbed to? Something like “we really wanted to have you guys in the wedding, but since Fiance & i decided to only choose 2 people, we would love to have you do _____”
Post # 3
I wouldn’t say anything…sounds like his cousins FI(that’s the one you were talking too, right? Lol) might have been mistaken as well, seeing on how your Fiance hasn’t been asked yet. Did I understand the problem correctly? Lol
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
Are you very close to her? Can you just privately speak to her and ask her if she mentioned the situation to her Fiance, and that you found out that your Fiance is choosing other guys?? If not, you probably should suck it up and tell your Fiance that you flubbed and that his cousin might be under the impression he’ll be chosen… if your Fiance is closer to his cousin than you are with his girlfriend, your Fiance may be able to smooth things out better. Either way, I don’t think you need to make up a position for them just because you made a mistake!
Post # 5
I would say and do nothing.
Dont have people do special things. Theyre either in the wedding party or theyre not. Its not really an honour to help you do things on the day- sorry! lol but its not. If they offer to help, then thats great, otherwise just leave it be.
Post # 6
Since you said *you thought* Fiance would ask his cousins, I don’t think you need to worry. It’s been at least 4 months, cousin hasn’t heard anything, so I think cousin and his fiance have worked out that you thought wrong.
If you had said that for certain cousin was going to be a Groomsmen, then I think an apology/correction would be in order. But you didn’t say that.