Post # 1
My fiancé and I have been engaged for 4 months and are getting married in October. My fiancé bought me a beautiful ering which is white gold. I have been looking at lots of different wedding photo blogs and am starting to fall in love with yellow gold, which most of my jewellery is (pieces given to me from Italy, etc). One of the things that I like about yellow gold is that you don’t have to worry about rodium wearing thin.
At the time we bought my engagement ring, I had no idea what kind of band I wanted. I basically guessed because I had no vision. I originally thought I wanted channel set diamonds all around but ended up going plain and it looks beautiful.
Last week I went to a jewellery store and bought my fiancé a dress watch for our wedding day which has a gold face and a speck of “gold” inside the face. I didn’t think he would pick it out for himself, but the staff encouraged me that anything goes today.
My ering is beautiful but it is white gold and I am starting to think I made a mistake. For my wedding band, the stones have been ordered, but nothing has been made yet and a deposit has not been given. I technically could make my wedding band yellow gold, but my e ring would not match. I would need to have my ering reset.
Another problem is that my fiancé’s ring is currently at the goldsmith being engraved! (not sure if they have started yet) and fiancé doesn’t know about that.
I accidently let this all slip during dinner last night with my fiancé. He is the greatest person ever and he listened and told me we can ask how much it would be to reset the band of my ering.
I feel really bad because I think that if it is something I want that I should help pay for it, but I don’t have the means with all of the other wedding purchases we have and left over deposits we have to finish (I have been making all of them so far and I don’t work full time).
Does this make me seem like an ungrateful bride? I hope that I am not hurting my fiancé who with all of his heart bought me a white gold band which he thought I loved.
I don’t know what to do! 🙁
Post # 3
I think that if you definitely want your engagement ring to be yellow gold and you know this for sure, you shouls try to have it reset. However, if this is just a passing thought and you might change your mind, I wouldn’t do it.
My engagement ring is 18k white gold and at one point, I had it in my head that I wanted to reset it to 14k rose gold. My FH was perfectly fine with resetting it, but I changed my mind because I realized that I really did love 18k white gold, and I didn’t want to change anything about my ring. I wanted this ring to be the same ring he proposed with, always.
Post # 4
You should get what you are comfortable with as you are going to be wearin it forever. Dont feel bad, I am sure your Fiance wouldnt want you looking at something you didnt like forever. He seems ok with it so dont feel bad
Post # 5
@weightwatchers152: I definitely think that if you are 100% sure you will be happier with a yellow gold setting and wedding band you should go for it. If your Fiance is okay with changing it I see nothing wrong with what you are asking and no you are not an ungrateful bride. Just make sure you are okay with letting the sentiment of the white gold setting go since its the original ring he proposed with. That could be something you regret later if it means a lot to you. Otherwise go for the yellow!!
Post # 6
why don’t you keep your e-ring as it is and have the wedding ring made yellow? That way you have the best of both worlds. I love thelook of non-matching sets! Hopefully the bees here with mixed white and yellow sets will post something…
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
You can always have your e-ring reset later when you can comfortably afford it and have your wedding band made how you want it- mixed metals is in right now!
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
@pixiefatale: beat me to it! maybe I will take my yellow gold e-ring and take some mismatched pictures with other rings I have around…
Post # 9
I’m wearing a mix-matching set right now, lol. My wedding band is white gold and my engangement ring is yellow gold. I love them both.
Post # 10
I think that mixing the metals is a great idea also. Keep the ering as is, and get a yellow gold band, then you can always get a reset later. OR get two bands, one yellow and one yellow gold, then you can switch around.
Post # 11
have you thought about getting 2 wedding bands.
you could get either 2 thin gold and diamond ones to wear on either side of your ering. or get one white gold and one yellow gold band and wear it stacked ering, Yg band, WG band.
that way you get to keep your ering but can incorporate your love of YG.
you could do something like this as well…
Post # 12
What about a two tone band? If you do a googe search there are tons of pictures to look at. I love the idea because then your band matches your jewlery whether you are wearing yellow gold, white gold or sterling silver. Then you could leave the e-ring as is, but it would still tie in really well.
Post # 13
You can definitely mix metals. Though, if you had your heart set on a yellow gold set, then you may consider resetting it.
Post # 14
@nikkialys: I second that.
Post # 15
@NielsyT: I plan on doing the same 🙂 yellowgold ering, white gold weddind band. Thanks to your pic, I have san idea of what it’ll look like; amazing!
Post # 16
Indeed, mixed metals are in, and I love them! I’m all for changing the colour of gold if you know you will be happier with yellow gold long term. I tried white gold and the rhodium wore off so fast it was truly bothering me. I had the shank changed to platinum. I did pay for it though, since it was my own decision (and I had almost 2 years to save for our wedding in my case)
I will be adding a rose gold band to my white set, so I am mixing metals.
Another option for you would be to let the white gold regain its original colour. White gold without the rhodium plating is gorgeous! It’s a pale creamy yellow, and it can look vintage, elegant. Your entire ring should turn this colour after a while, and perhaps you might like that colour a lot.
Here are pics I found online. The white gold is gorgeous!!