- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
i would like advice/feedback, or if anyone has gone through the same situation. or even if you haven’t.
Me and my sister used to be very close. We saw eachother as much as possible, I would drive an hour to babysit for her all the time, and I could talk to her about anything and TRUST her.
When I moved to NC, and she was up in NJ she started to change. A year after I moved here, she moved down here too. when I mentioned the idea me and my Fiance may be moving away she flipped out, and then basically changed.
I asked her to be a bridesmaid, and she told one of my other sisters she was upset I did not make her the maid of honor, and never told me, but did little things to annoy me, or upset me. she has not helped me with anything wedding related and whenever I ask she cancles, ditches me or lies about why she cannot help. she also didnt order her bm dress until end of march, and I still do not believe she has it, she told me she does, but won’t show me it.
me and my Fiance had been engaged for about 3 months when she met her now Fiance. she has always said she will never get married, and that i am stupid for getting married etc. for as long as i can remember. then she got engaged (about 4 months into her relationship) and kept talking about eloping. she also tried to make her wedding right before mine!! and kept changing the date. they finally picked a date, and it is 10 months after ours but is on my Fiance birthday! she also asked everyone of my sisters to be in her wedding except me. me and my Fiance have already decided we will not attend her wedding.
the entire time i have been planning our wedding my sister kept making comments about how dumb my ideas are, how stupid wedding planning is, and she wont do all this “bridey” stuff. and now that my wedding is so close she started posting about hers on facebook constantly, pinning everything, talking about it with my family everytime my wedding is mentioned. oh also she picked a color scheme just like ours. and had originally picked a dress that looked exactly like mine, but changed her mind. and i will be really hurt if she keeps talking about her wedding during the week of mine when all my family is here.
she constantly uses me as a babysitter, a dd, a friend when no one else is around. she makes plans then never calls/texts me because something better came along. she is a compulsive liar. to be honest i think she has multiple personalities or something. (my father had a lot of mental illnesses).we also have a step sister who i do not have anything to do with, and my sister buddies up with her, and talks about me, they make up lies about me, and they are both horrible, horrible people. i kept spending time with her because she is my sister and i thought maybe just once she wouldn’t be so bad.
other things have been going on but that is way to much to get into! so i have stopped spending time with her, but i still answer her texts and phone calls to keep her happy until after my wedding. she told my mom (not me) she will not be coming to my bridal shower or rehearsal or rehearsal dinner. also, her son is my ringbearer and she still has not bought his clothes (the wedding is less than 3 weeks away!!!)
after all this, and all the other problems we have been having not wedding related, i have decided to cut her out of my life after my wedding. i want to keep the peace the week of my wedding, but after that i am done. it is a really hard and emotional decision for me. but i decided i cannot have someone like her in my life anymore. i feel like i need therapy or something!