Post # 1
I am just a liiiiittle irritated with my mother. She doesn’t ask how wedding planning is going or if I need any help with anything. She doesnt seem to show support. I am also moving away after the wedding. My fiance is in another state and we’ve had a long distance engagement. I don’t feel she is excited for me. I dont think she sees how much stress I am going through to make a wedding and a move happen. Not to mention the stressors of resigning from my current employer. She comes to visit me every other weekend but doesn’t ask or offer anything????? Why come? My birthday is tomorrow and still no offer to do anything with me! I feel like I shouldn’t have to tell her how I feel, she should know. I’m sorry I’m venting but this is really heart breaking for your own mother to do.
Post # 3
Oh, thats not good! I hope she comes through for you – is she always like this or is there something crazy going on with her life right now?
Happy birthday to you though, brideinjune12~!!!
Post # 4
@montanamum: Thanks Hun:). I guess it’s safe to say this is normal behavior for her. I don’t understand it though. Why wouldn’t you want to help your only daughter or be involved? It’s frustrating. Oh well, right?!
Post # 5
Some parents kind of melt down when their kids graduate college, move out, get married, or any mix of those milestones. The last two decades of their lives have revolved around taking care of you, and they go into an identity crisis. They also start to dwell on their own age and mortality. Kind of like “well now that this is over, I guess my job is one and no one needs me any more.”
It’s worse for only children and youngest kids, and not all parents go through it, but it might be worth reminding your mom that you’ll still need her, for many years.
Post # 6
I guess I should ask her for help. Although, I wanted to go to the mall with her today to find wedding shoes but she wasn’t feeling up for it. We planned on going for a couple days now and she kinda bailed on the idea because she was tired. Of course I got upset and we had tension about other pointless topics as a result. I don’t know. I think parents need to grow with their children and show that they are the bigger person?
Post # 7
Happy Birthday!!! I am having the same situation!! My mom has not helped at all and I am also moving to another country after my wedding!. I am about to resign from my job as well lol I have had no help from any of my family and I am having a DW! So lots of stress all around! I can definatly relate lol
Post # 8
Yeah, I’m not having the experience I hoped for either. My mom is trying to help but she’s just melting down CONSTANTLY. Ugghhh.