Post # 1
Hi, i hope you can help!
so im english, living in mexico and planning my wedding to my mexican fiance here in mexico. I have a general understanding of the concept of madrinas/padrinos but heres the bit im confused with. it seems bridesmaids dont do anything here, and padrinos get a special role in the wedding. i dont feel like i can ask my bridesmaids to pay for anything to be madrinas (theyre english girls, and fare from england to mexico alone is around 1000 dollars) but i dont know if it will be strange if they dont have a special role in the wedding. or can people be padrinos/madrinas as in, the role…but with me paying for the items? my fiance seems to think padrinos should be couples rather than singles, is that true?
i went to a wedding yesterday where the bride walked in with the padrinos (all in purple dresses/ties) and there were bridesmaids who popped up only for photos (dressed in sky blue). so i guess i should do that, but id like them to do something special in some way
not sure how well i explained that, if you need me to explain myself a bit better let me know =)
Post # 3
I’m not sure about the Mexican culture, but in the Puerto Rican culture, padrinos are normally two people the bride and groom choose, not-necessarily a couple. Our padrinos are responsible for paying the cake and they will walk in the processional after our parents. As for the bridesmaids, they will be standing to the left of me during the ceremony. I do not expect them to do anything more than be there for me before and during the wedding. Hope this helps. 🙂 best wishes!!!!
Post # 4
we’re both dominican and we’re having two sets of padrino/madrinas. both of our sets are married.
unless your fiance is suuuuper old-fashioned u can do whatever u want w the designation of p/m. ours arent paying for anything. they will be walking down the aisle before the bmaids/gmen and the pair i picked will stand on my side, his on his. they’re married friends (mine) and a married cousin (his) who we look up to and who have been kind of role models when it comes to marriage and kids.
during the ceremony they will have a part in the wine box ceremony we will be doing.
Post # 5
well ive been told there are (or could be?) padrinos for the arras, lazo, anillos…and one other thing that i cant seem to remember (possibly to do with the second bouquet for the virgin?). in the wedding on saturday i think it was all relatives doing these things.
im just getting confused by it all…there are catholic traditions (im church of england but converting) and mexican traditions and its all new to me! my fiances mother tried to explain things but theres still a bit of a language barrier so some things get lost in translation. Orlando (fiance) seems to have a hazy idea of how things should work so he’s not much help!
i guess i can either give the bridesmaids the things (and explain where they fit in the ceremony once i work it out!) or just have pre-wedding stuff with them and getting ready on the day
Post # 6
@jessitaylor: My parents from Central America and Fiance was born in Cuba and we are not having padrinos or godparents. We are getting married in a church and having a Maid/Matron of Honor, best man, and 3 bridesmaids and groomsmen. Do you really need padrinos….no. However, it is a strong tradtion especially within the Mexican culture. I would suggest go for it to honor your FI’s hertiage but still have your bridesmaids with you even if it’s just for pictures.
Typically this is how padrinos work:
In Mexico, a couple chooses their godparents who sponsor the wedding in some form (purchase flowers, cake and etc). Being chosen to be a padrino or madrina is a great sign of respect and they usually would help advice and guide the couple during their engagement and marriage when needed. Also, the padrino and madrina have a special role during the wedding ceremony. Usually, I have seen the padrino and madrina place the lasso on the couple during the ceremony or read a passage.
Another interesting fact is the remaining bridal party attendants are also considered madrinas (bms) and padrinos (gms). These individuals may also have special roles such as the following:
Included in the padrinos (madrina for the woman), there is a madrina de copas who carries a wine glass for the toast. There is also padrinos for a prayer book, a rosary, a guestbook, and an embroidered kneeling pillow.
The bride can also choose a madrina de velacion to guide her throughout her married life. The last person in the procession is the remembrances-bearer who is in charge of carrying the memorabilia that is handed to guests. In some families, there are also godparents who promise to look after the couple financially and spiritually
Post # 7
Thanks for all the answers! Yes i definitely want to include his culture and traditions in the wedding. Ill leave it to my fiance to decide who does what and guide me on the appropriate way to ask them!
Post # 8
My husband and I are both puerto rican and we didnt do the padrinos. We also did the americna way best man/MOH bridesmaids and it worked fine. Didnt want too many ppl in the bridal party anyways.
Post # 9
Im also having pardrinos/madrinas and bridesmaids/groomsmen, but most of my bridemaids/groomsmen are also helping me pay for certain things. My padrinos/madrinas are also wearing the same color as my bridesmaids so they can stand out form the crowd and we all know they helped me in some way.
Post # 10
Both fiancé and I are Mexican Americans and were having the 4 main padrinos which are the padrinos de honor which are the ones that stand with you in the altar and are suppose to help you during your marriage if there were to be any hardships, then there’s padrinos de arraz, the ones thatfive you the coins, padrinos de anillos, they give you the rings, and last but not least padrinos de lazo and they’re the ones that put the rope around your heads during the ceremony as a symbol of union. We’re having all those padrinos but were paying for everything but some of them still wanted to pitch in, we chose couples because those padrinos should be able to give you advice on how to have a happy marriage, and they should be able to help you with any marital problems. We’re also having bridesmaids and groomsmen and were having the bridesmaids walk in to church with bouquets, the madrinas and bridesmaids are wearing the same shade of dress only different style to differentiate between them. Hope this helps sorry if I rambled on.
Post # 10
nates0301: how many couple’s did you have got bridemaids and groomsmen? Also got your flower girl and ring berries how many flower girls and ring barriers did you have sets?