Post # 1
Yes Bees I am having a maid dilemma…no not that kind (don’t have enough money to hire a cleaner). I’m having touble deciding who i am going to invite to me in my bridal party. Of course my 2 sisters will be in it but my Fiancee has asked his best friend and 4 brothers (feel so bad for his mother HAH!) which means i need 3 more maids. My Sister Jamie will be my maid of honor since she is older than me and my sister Jacelena will be just a maid since she is the youngest.
I have noticed that a lot of my girl friends have been more “close” to me than usual..which makes me think it’s clearly because they know I still need more maids and would love to be in my wedding. I mean, who wouldnt want to be in a wedding anyways?
So I have 6 really close girlfriends. Problem is the few girl friends that i was thinking of asking do not get along with each other. C and A don’t like J. J got into a fight with C and A took C’s back and now they aren’t talking to each other. This is such a pain for me, especially during this exciting time in my life. I love all 3 the same so i’m having a rough time deciding.
How can i make a decision bees???? has anyone else gone through something like this?
Post # 3
then pick the girls with no drama
Post # 4
Just remember, your sides dont’ have to match!! And if you want the 3 in your party, then tell them they need to act like adults and get over themselves on your day, or none of them can be in your party
Post # 5
I agree. Sides don’t have to match up. And you will be more happy with girls who are not fighting. So either ask the 2 girls, or the 1, and find a few others to make it even. Or just leave everyone out and have it uneven.
Post # 6
Please, please consider uneven sides. You only have to look through a few of the bridesmaids threads on this site to see the kind of stress and drama that can erupt from including people you didn’t originally intend to. If you stick to just your sisters, none of your friends can make a fuss or claim you’re playing favorites.
Post # 7
I’m doing uneven sides! I’m breaking UK wedding tradition by having 4 adult bridesmaids instead of just a maid of honor and some little girls, but my fiance is sticking to tradition and having just a best man (no groomsmen) and 7 ushers. Yes, 7. SO, our wedding pictures will be lopsided. Without the ushers, my side is bigger. With the ushers, his side is bigger. Meh. No biggie! It will probably save you headaches and money to just stick with the girls you’ve already got, not to mention cut down on the drama factor.