- 6 years ago
Okay, for starters, I’ve already told the bride I’ll do this for her and all the other bridesmaids have agreed, so I’m not asking whether I should or shouldn’t. I’m just asking if any other brides or girls who have been bridesmaids have had to do this too.
My friend found an excellent way to save money on her wedding. Instead of hiring people to set up and break down the reception, she took a look around and realized she had six slaves she could put to good use: her maid of honor (moi) and her five other bridesmaids (as well as some other relatives). She just informed me what our “schedules” for the day will look like:
1. Be at her house by 9 am (where she will give us chick fil a breakfast…generous).
2. Eat, then do our hair together at her house.
3. Leave for the reception site by 10:30 while she goes to the spa to get her hair and makeup done and relax
4. This is where it gets fun: From 10:30 to 3:30 we have to set everything up. All the DIY projects, all the chairs and tables and linens and tablecloths (which she bought since it’s cheaper to buy them and resell at a loss than it is to rent), help with the speaker set up, get the place cards out, set the tables etc etc etc. We “can have an hour for lunch” (Good, I was about to call the Bridesmaid’s Union!)
5. From 3:30-4:30 put on our dresses and makeup (according to the bride we probably won’t have time to do our hair, so we need to do it in the morning). Take pictures and go to the ceremony site, then more pictures, then wedding, then more pictures.
6. After the wedding help take everything down and load up the gifts etc etc. That will probably take several hours.
It’s step 4 that bugged me a little. She didn’t ask any of us for help she just assumed we would. “Yeah and I need you to set up the reception site.” She even mentioned she could have gotten the reception site to do it for her, but they wanted to charge her extra. When I told my mom why I needed to leave the house so early, she flipped out and said that was extremely rude. I don’t think it’s all that rude, the only part that really bugged me was the way our help was expected rather than asked for.
Which brings me to my question: Are the bridesmaids and family members expected to help set up and break down the wedding or is it rude to expect them to?