- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
I have an etiquette question to ask… Here is the situation..
I have a friend, we’ll call her K. She is single, I have known her for about six years, we hang out just about once a week if not more and we are very close. She has alteady started helping me with wedding stuff (looking at colors, simple stuff so far). She is just an awesome friend who I can depend on and who is extreamly helpful and willing to be there fot me at all times for anything. I want her to be my maid of honor and stand next to me, no doubt about it…
I also have a friend, we’ll call her A. Her and I grew up togeththe since the first grade, went to college, lived together and due to certain reasons we had a falling out. Well, we are on the mend and I am so happy for that but I still have hurt feelings but I’m trying to get passed them. When we hang out we still connect and we both do love each other. She was like a sister to me. Well, she got pregnant and had a small “family only” wedding that I wasn’t invited to, that’s fine I understand. But I don’t know where she belongs in my wedding. I always thought she would be my Maid/Matron of Honor but that is no longer what I want because I have gotten so close to K and I know K and I have a lasting friendship. SOooo… Do I make A a Matron of Honor (she is married) and have her stand next to K. So that would mean I have K as a Maid of honor and A standing next to her as a matron of honor then the other three girls as bm’s? Or do I have K be my maid of honor and have A as a bm? Is it ok to have a maid of honor and matron? K will assume all Maid/Matron of Honor duties, A lives kinda far, works and has a five month old baby so I don’t want to overwhelm her… But I kind of do want her to be recognized as someone special to me… Even though I do not think that if she did have a big wedding (they might have one for those who did not attend the small one)…even if I’m not a Maid/Matron of Honor in hers, I skins of still want her as a matron in mine.
How do I do this? What is etiquette? Pros and cons of both situations? I don’t think A would be upset if she was just a bm and not a matron. I think it’s more of wondering what I feel is right.