- 6 years ago
- Wedding: December 1969
Bees, I am now a happily married woman! Unfortunately, my wedding weekend ended up turning into a nightmare. Long story short, my maid of honor who has been one of my close friends for almost 10 years ended up going off the deep end the night before the wedding and insulted and verbally attacked almost everyone in my wedding party at a group dinner including my bridesmaids, brother and mother and father. The worst part is she doesn’t “claim” to remember saying any of the horrible things she said to everyone. She mentioned that she was on an antibiotic that had possibly mixed with the three glasses of wine that she had but other then that she has no explanation for acting like a crazed maniac that night. She was very apologetic, but unfortunately the things she said can’t be taken back and I really have no desire to be around her for awhile. Things were so uncomfortable that I ended up spending the night with my fiance at his hotel instead of with my maid of honor. On my actual wedding day I tried to not think about what happened the night before but every time my Maid/Matron of Honor came to ask me if I needed anything I could feel my anger towards her boiling up and it really did make me sad and uncomfortable for part of the day.
I don’t want to let this isolated incident ruin our friendship, but the incident was so severe I can’t help but wonder if I need to re-evaluate what kind of a friend she is. All those who witnessed her behavior were shocked, mortified and outraged. Most of my other bridesmaids told me they will no longer be friends with this girl regardless of what I chose to do. My family who also always thought very highly of my maid of honor lost total respect for her and was very hurt she insulted and attacked our family for no reason. I can’t imagine how bad and embarrassed she must be feeling about this whole thing, but at the same time she did damage to my family by the rude things she said that can’t be taken back or forgotten.
I need some unbiased advice on how I should approach the “clean up” of this situation going forward – please help!!