Post # 1
Sorry if this is a silly question, but what is your definitions for a maid of honor? Like what should be her duties or what should she be responsible for? Does she throw me a bachlorette party or bridal shower? Does she not really have any responsibilities? I’m pretty clueless. I would like to ask my best friend to be my Maid/Matron of Honor but she’s not very into these kind of things, so I wanted to get an idea of what I should expect from my Maid/Matron of Honor and what she should be in charge of, then I want to make sure those things are okay with her before she says yes. I don’t want her to feel pressured into doing anything she doesn’t want to/isn’t comfortable with. So, if you could please give me some ideas that would be awesome! Thank you!! 🙂
Post # 3
I only had a Maid of Honor (my sister) no bridesmaids. She helped me with dress shopping, and signed the marriage license, and was there to support me. But she didn’t do anything crazy or plan any parties. I was fine with that. If you want her as your maid of Honor, by all means ask her, and tell her you just want her standing by you on your big day. 🙂
Post # 4
Her basic responsibilities are to show up, appropriately dressed, walk down the aisle, and sign off on the marriage license. Beyond that, it depends on your expectations. She is often in charge of organizing a shower and/or bachelorette – but not necessarily. Many brides want their MOHs involved in choosing gowns, flowers, etc., and making centerpieces, stuffing invitation envelopes, etc. – but, again, that varies a LOT.
Your best bet is probably to think about what’s important to you, and then talk with your friend about what would be realistic and reasonable for her. Mainly the important thing is that your expectations are in sync with one another.
Post # 5
My sister is my maid of honour and she only got back from overseas the other day, so she’s done diddly squat with wedding planning. There’s nothing at all I really want her to do anyway – I don’t want a bachelorette, and I’m pretty sure bridal showers don’t exist in this part of the world (thank god!).
Post # 6
@KCKnd2: Exactly this. Ultimately it depends on what you (the bride) want. If you want to give her almost nothing to do, you should be able to make it work.
Post # 7
I don’t really need her to do much, I know my Mother-In-Law is going to be helping a lot with planning and decorations (her and I are super close, she’s like the mother I never had.) I mostly just want my Maid/Matron of Honor to be there, maybe help me with the pre-planning (my wedding isn’t until August 2014) so just help me get some ideas. Come with me to pick a dress, and to an upcoming bridal expo (just to look aroud.) I would like her to plan or help me plan a bridal shower (is it bad to throw your own?)
Post # 8
@alohapanda: My Sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor and she’s been there to help pick out my dress, shop for her dress, bottle wine and listen to me have melt downs lol. I had some expectations so when I asked her to be my Maid/Matron of Honor I told her what I was hoping she could help me with and she agreed. You can really make up your own “rules” or “responsibilities” to suit your needs as a bride.
Post # 9
My Maid/Matron of Honor is my best friend. She hasn’t helped with dress shopping as I went with my mum, and she hasn’t been actively involved in planning anything.
She’s been the person I can speak to about anything/everything wedding related. That’s pretty much it! I don’t expect her to do anything, other than show up! But she wants to help plan my Hen Do and she’ll be there the day before the wedding to help set up the venue 🙂