Post # 1
I haven’t posted at all really, I am more of a reader. But I need some help. I live far away from my maid of honor and she has stopped answering my texts/calls. She recently went through a rough patch and I backed off with planning for a while. But now I need my maids to have their dresses ordered. Being far away I can’t do mush other than text/call.
I feel as though I made the worst choice I could’ve and I am not sure how to address this with her. But it has be 1 1/2 months since we talked and all other maids ordered their dresses before Thanksgiving.
I don’t feel I can count on her anymore and the Maid of Honor is supposed to be reliable.
What do I do? I do not want to kick her out, but frankly I am reallllly hurrrtt.
Post # 3
Can one of the other bridesmaids reach out to her? Can anyone else reach out to her? Do you think she’s been MIA because she’s been busy or because she doesn’t want to talk to you?
Post # 4
@BDCS: Other than getting her dress what are you having your Maid/Matron of Honor do? My Maid/Matron of Honor is far away also so are 2 of my 3 bridesmaids. I knew that they wouldn’t be able to help. I am a big diy/crafter and would have loved/love more help but I knew that it wasn’t possible. Another Bee on here said no one is going to love your wedding as much as you do. At this point I don’t think there is a whole lot you can do but make sure you are still keepin up with these friends tabs that every conversation you have is not about your wedding. Sometimes that can be a turn off for bridal party members. Good luck.
Post # 5
It depends on what you’re requiring your maid of honor to do. What are you asking of her?
Post # 6
@BDCS: What is your absolute deadline for ordering their dresses?
I would contact her once more and tell her that I was worried about her as I had not had any response to my previous efforts. I would not make any mention of the wedding or her dress at this time. Let her know that you care about her and are available if she needs you.
If you don’t get a response to that, I would text her that she needs to order her dress by ___ , (whatever the absolute deadline is) or you will have to assume she is no longer interested in being in the bridal party. She is welcome to attend as a guest.
Post # 7
One of my maids has talked to her more than once during this time period. She is MIA because she wants to be. I am just requiring her to get her dress ordered before end of the year. The store we are purchasing from is giving a discount if we can get the orders in. I offered to help her pay because I know money is tight right now around the holidays for her.
I will try the advice of reaching out to her w/o mentioning the wedding. I have done that before but I put more effort behind my attempt.
It is just frustrating because I thought I could depend on her.