(Closed) Maid of Honor and new born baby

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Is it wrong to ask my Maid of Honor not to bring her new born baby to the wedding?
    Yes : (38 votes)
    84 %
    No : (7 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    How old will the baby be at the time of the wedding?

    Post # 4
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @ddw: I second this, how old will the baby be at the time of the wedding?

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

    @mariposa_bride: Why does she want to bring the baby, and why do you not want her to?

    Also, how old is the baby?  If it’s not even a month old, I personally would not leave my baby with a sitter. 

    Post # 6
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    Bee Keeper

    I also think it depends on how old the baby is. I wouldn’t want to leave my baby with a sitter if it were less than a few months old.

    Post # 7
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Also, is your wedding local to your Maid/Matron of Honor, or will she have to travel?

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

    @mariposa_bride: Are there any other bridesmaids that can help you on your day?  Any other people you can ask?  Four months old is still very, very little. 

    Also, if your Maid/Matron of Honor is nursing, keep in mind that if the baby is not there, she will still have to take time out to pump. 

    Post # 10
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @mariposa_bride: Your date says 2012, so I’m assuming that your Maid/Matron of Honor is currently expecting.  I’d consider asking her if she would be comfortable leaving the baby with a sitter or relative when the time comes.  However, I’d also be sure to let her know how excited you are for her and to promise her that you’ll be there for her when the baby comes.  At 4 months old she may be open to a sitter, but I think that she’ll want to know that this big upcoming moment in her life is as important to you as your wedding is to her.

    Post # 11
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    A 4 month old is tricky, Is she still nursing? And if you didn’t want your Maid/Matron of Honor to be distracted by her baby on her wedding day, it would have been easier to choose a Maid/Matron of Honor that wasn’t pregnant. It’s not all about you, even though it is your wedding day. Everyone has lives outside of your wedding, and unfortunately a mother’s first priority is her child. I honestly don’t know what I would do in this situation, have you talked to her about it at all to see how she feels about it?

    Post # 11
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Is she breastfeeding?  I would probably consider dropping out of a wedding if it meant I would have to leave one that young for so long.

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    HMMM, I have mixed feelings on this.would want my four month old with me during the reception and probably want to feed before the ceremony.

    In all reality is there that much to be done the day of that a baby with a babysitter would take away from your day? There will be so many other people around in the end I don’t really think it would be  a problem.

    Post # 13
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I wouldn’t ask a mom to leave a four month old at home. What do you need her to do? I would ask other people to help out as she may be busy with the baby.

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