Post # 1
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Newbee
I have asked my cousin and only female relative from my generation to be my maid of honor. We grew up together, but she lives about 6 hours away. So one of my best friends, who is local, is helping al ot more with the planning. I feel I have to have my family come first and be the maid of honor, but I want to have my friend have an important title too.
I have read that honor attendent is a way to give someone else a nod other than having two maids of honor, which I feel may devaule the title.
Any other thoughts for names of this second important maid?
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
Bridesmaid is a high title. Your friend shouldn’t be insulted that your Maid/Matron of Honor is family.
Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
wouldn’t your friend be called a bridesmaid?
Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
there is still the honour of being a bridesmaid.
Post # 6
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Bumble bee
i agree bridesmaid is just fine, its still a huge honor. just make sure you show her your appreciation!
Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
What is you have a Maid of Honor and a Matron of Honor. All of DH’s sisters did this because there are three of them.
Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
@roxy821: I thought Maid and Matron titles were based on whether they are married or not?
Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
@GrrovyHippieChick- You may be right but I have just seen it used to signify importance.
Post # 10
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Newbee
What if I call her an honor attendant? Is that they same things as a maid of honor?
Post # 11
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Newbee
Are they your only two maids? My sister and Future Sister-In-Law are my maids so I dubbed them both maids of honor. If you have more than just those, why not have two? No one said you couldn’t 🙂
Post # 12
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Newbee
I have thought about having two maids of honor, but would that be like a slight to my cousin? Like your Future Sister-In-Law will be family so they are pretty much on the same level, but this is a family member and a friend…
Post # 13
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Wannabee
@eeosgood: Hello! I read this post and felt like you and I are seperated at engagement birth! LOL. I asked my cousin, who lives 6hrs away to be my Maid/Matron of Honor. She has been the closest thing to a sister that I have had my entire life. Problem is: she’s 6 hrs away….next problem: everything is about her! My best friend (locally) is one of my BMs. She went with me to get my dress, has helped with the “engagement” party and has offered help with anything else…even set up my Pinterest account & started sending me ideas. Basically…been my right hand woman. I wanted to give her a larger title than “Bridesmaid”…even though that is a huge honor in itself. So…I asked her to be my “Matron of Honor”. I read an article that the “maid of honor” is single and the “matron of honor” is married. However, my FH is having 2 “Best Man”s because he is equally close to these two guys & could not choose. All in all..you set up “who does what” on the actual day…up until then-it should be a team effort. I’m not sure if this helped at all..but it was a relief to me that someone else had the exact same issue as me! It’s you & your FHs day…do what you want! 
Post # 14
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Worker bee
Maid and Matron of Honor. Maid of Honor -not married. Matron of Honor-married.
If its just he 2 of them, why give them titles other then just bridesmaids? or if you really want a Maid/Matron of Honor pick who you want to be your Maid/Matron of Honor. Don’t worry about what other people think and if you are affaid of hurting your friend or cousin, talk to them about it and why you are doing what you are doing. If they are really there for you they will understand.