Post # 1
I have quite the predicament on my hands, and I’ve been googling solutions for hours LOL. I have two sisters (one is 13 months older than me/and the other is 6 years older than me). Now we always had the set up where each would be the maid of honor once… I’m the youngest/and last getting married.. so the whole Matron/Maid solution is out the window…ugh! So- my OLDEST sister SHOULD be my maid of honor according to our original ‘set up’. However, she is VERY shy and could/would never talk in front of a crowd/handle all the plans/etc..she even said that to me recently. Last year, she told me that my OTHER sister should really be my maid of honor as we are so close. Of course i am close with both, and thats why this is so hard, but the one closer in age im REALLY close with. She has already been making phone calls to limo services/hotels/etc… of course now that i am engaged.. BOTH are expressing interest… i really want the middle sister as she has been planning to be my maid of honor for years, and has already planned so much.. but i DONT want to hurt the others feelings.. i was thinking of making one “Matron of Honor” and list the other as “Honor Attendant” .. I’m not sure that is using the terms correctly though.. also thought of “matron of honor” and “co-matron of honor”..but many posts suggest thast an insult? waht about “MOH” and “CHIEF BRIDESMAID”? i saw that as well…i even saw someone post “Matron of the East” and “matron of the west” which is hilarious! BUT AGAIN– i do want the middle sister to be SINGLED OUT more for all of her hard work..she really will be the one handling it all… and i dont want my other sister to feel left out…. PLEASE HELP!!! What can i call my second Maid/Matron of Honor ? I’d rather NOT call them BOTH Matron of Honor..as the one will be doing everything…
Post # 2
I’d just give them both the same title and call it a day. Then they can handle the duties in whatever way they are most comfortable with. My husband had both of his brothers as best men and it was great! They both did speeches and both planned his bachelor party.
Post # 3
Yeah, can you just have 2 MOH?
Post # 4
thank you!!! i totally can… i just wanted two different titles … maybe i should do both Maid/Matron of Honor like you said .. thank you for the advice!
Post # 5
I’d just go with making them both matrons of honor. Wanting to single one out for doing all the legwork is probably one of the more insulting things you could do. If you wanted only one to be matron of honor due to having a closer relationship, that’s fine, but it seems you don’t want to do that.
I’d get rid of all the silly “quasi MOH” titles. They sound super patronizing to me.
Post # 6
Have them both as Matron of honour, nothing wrong with that 🙂
Post # 7
I have two sisters as well and coincidentally, very similar in age differences to you and your sisters! Both of my sisters will be maids of honor with their title both being the same. I have a feeling one of my sisters will be more into wedding planning than the other, it’s just their personalities. Even if one “does” more than the other, both of my sisters are my best friends and I want to honor them both!
Post # 8
You are overthinking. Both can be maid or matron of honor.
Post # 9
Another vote for 2 MOHs. You don’t have to have one maid and one matron.
Post # 10
Yeah, 2 MOHs is good 🙂 after all it’s a position of HONOUR, i.e. it’s about you honouring them not what they can do for you 🙂 I would just tell your closest-age sister privately how much you appreciate all her work. You don’t necessarily need to announce it to the world. Also, there’s heaps your other sister can do that doesn’t involve talking to people!
Post # 11
Just name them both moh! I think that’s lovely!
Post # 12
I just want to say that even if you give them the same title, they may still continue the dynamic where one sister is more eager/able to help than the other. At certain times during wedding planning, I’ve had bridesmaids step up more than my MOH; titles do not necessarily = involvement, and that’s okay.
Post # 13
Affording them equal titles, you may be pleasantly surprised by what the eldest ‘brings’ in terms of her input.
I also have two older sisters at the same ages from me!!! Firstly- big love for that! I used to be much closer with the middle, but as we get older, we all develop a deeper bond. Secondly, I know how wildly different they are: Eldest would want to organise everything to an almost military precision, whereas Middle would bring the party and the spontaneous fun. Well, they’re both fun! Middle is more shy, Eldest is more responsible by birth order.. Anyway, point is, I would have them both as MoH and they would bring different but complementary strengths to it. I think MoH for both, and then the three of you can continue being three peas in a big family pod xxx