(Closed) Maid of Honor /Between 2 sisters

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I’d just give them both the same title and call it a day. Then they can handle the duties in whatever way they are most comfortable with. My husband had both of his brothers as best men and it was great! They both did speeches and both planned his bachelor party. 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee

Yeah, can you just have 2 MOH?

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I’d just go with making them both matrons of honor. Wanting to single one out for doing all the legwork is probably one of the more insulting things you could do. If you wanted only one to be matron of honor due to having a closer relationship, that’s fine, but it seems you don’t want to do that.

I’d get rid of all the silly “quasi MOH” titles. They sound super patronizing to me.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Have them both as Matron of honour, nothing wrong with that 🙂 

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I have two sisters as well and coincidentally, very similar in age differences to you and your sisters! Both of my sisters will be maids of honor with their title both being the same. I have a feeling one of my sisters will be more into wedding planning than the other, it’s just their personalities. Even if one “does” more than the other, both of my sisters are my best friends and I want to honor them both! 

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper

You are overthinking. Both can be maid or matron of honor.  

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Another vote for 2 MOHs. You don’t have to have one maid and one matron.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Yeah, 2 MOHs is good 🙂 after all it’s a position of HONOUR, i.e. it’s about you honouring them not what they can do for you 🙂 I would just tell your closest-age sister privately how much you appreciate all her work. You don’t necessarily need to announce it to the world. Also, there’s heaps your other sister can do that doesn’t involve talking to people!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Just name them both moh! I think that’s lovely!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

I just want to say that even if you give them the same title, they may still continue the dynamic where one sister is more eager/able to help than the other. At certain times during wedding planning, I’ve had bridesmaids step up more than my MOH; titles do not necessarily = involvement, and that’s okay.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee

Affording them equal titles, you may be pleasantly surprised by what the eldest ‘brings’ in terms of her input. 

I also have two older sisters at the same ages from me!!! Firstly- big love for that! I used to be much closer with the middle, but as we get older, we all develop a deeper bond. Secondly, I know how wildly different they are: Eldest would want to organise everything to an almost military precision, whereas Middle would bring the party and the spontaneous fun. Well, they’re both fun! Middle is more shy, Eldest is more responsible by birth order.. Anyway, point is, I would have them both as MoH and they would bring different but complementary strengths to it. I think MoH for both, and then the three of you can continue being three peas in a big family pod xxx

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