- 5 years ago
I am a brides maid in one of my good friends from high schools wedding. Her sister is the maid of honor. Currently we are planning the bridal shower. I am the only bridesmaid that lives far away. I live at least 6 or more hours away. While I am very frusterated because I feel like I am being left out. I understand this is her day but let me explain. When all the bridesmaids went dress shopping, I couldn’t go because of military training but that was litterally the only weekend I couldn’t go. However, we could reschedule because the Maid of Honor would have to get child care another day. Now we are planning the bridal shower. Orginally all the bridesmaids agreed to a Saturday and said they were available. While the maid of honor switched the venue and the date to a sunday afternoon. I asked to make it earlier that sunday but it was already booked. I am in military training then and will only be able to go to an hour of the shower but I still have to pay for the whole thing and I won’t even get to see my friend open the group present. I brought up my frustration to the Maid of Honor because I feel like there is no compromise. She flipped out and said this is not about you this is about my sister and I have to drag twins 3 hours so I am compromising. Am I wrong for feeling this way? How do I defuse the situation?