- 6 years ago
I’m having the hardest time trying to figure out who to choose for my Maid/Matron of Honor. I know traditionally it’s the sister or best friend, but I have a tricky situation. I actually have two sisters, but I’m estranged from both. Here is a blurb on each, positives and negatives, what do you guys think? I’m so lost!!
Bridesmaid or Best Man 1: FI’s sister, she’s kinda immature and can be very selfish, I’m not too close to her now but she’s my future SIL and she does have a good heart, can be sweet and loves decorating. Lives an hour and a half away during school-time (my wedding will be during the school year, all of my Bridesmaid or Best Man are in school)
Bridesmaid or Best Man 2: ‘Best friend’ from HS, we grew very apart in the last four or so years. She has always kina been selfish and self-serving, our friendship was to comfort her, give her advice, etc. I was actually her Maid/Matron of Honor when she got married in January, she doesn’t have a lot of girl friends. She lives almost 14 hours away.
Bridesmaid or Best Man 3: Good friend from middle school, reconnected in college. She’s very nice, I am close to her, but she can be incredibly forgetful, VERY forgetful. She’s come right out and told me she’s never been in a wedding and would have no idea what to do, and wouldn’t be hurt if I chose someone else, school four hours away, no car.
Bridesmaid or Best Man 4: Met this girl in college, she’s very nice, a wedding EXPERT. Been in so many weddings, would know everything to do. I am close to her, but not as close as Bridesmaid or Best Man 3, who I’ve lived with for the last year. We’ve gotten closer over the last year, goes to school and lives four hours away, also no car, but more motivated and organized.
Gaah. All these girls are special, and I think I’m realizing that my introversion has kept me from close relationships over the years, which is difficult… these thoughts are partially due to the fact that I’ve also heard that the Maid/Matron of Honor has lots of responsibilities for planning things, like bachelorette parties, wedding showers, etc, and one has to think of that when choosing especially if there’s no automatic choice. Any advice about Maid/Matron of Honor choice in general would be nice too! I’ve only been in one wedding and have no real experience with these things!