Post # 1
Hey ladies, I have a best friend of more that 20 yrs who has claimed the Maid/Matron of Honor spot from the moment the ring was placed on my hand(she told family, friends, and posted that she was Maid/Matron of Honor on Facebook). I wouldn’t have a problem with this if I didn’t have sisters that I’m really close to. The thing is I would have liked to have chosen myself instead of being “bullied”. I know she is extremly happy for me and is excited but of all 8 of my bridesmaids(4 sisters 3 college roomates, and my best friend) she is the only one I can see having an issue getting along with the others. I know her so I can handle her sassy mouth but not so sure about everyone else.
I’m REALLY leaning towards having my 10 yr old daughter be my Maid/Matron of Honor instead of Jr bride. My sisters said they would help my daughter with preparations and include her in with what she can do being that she couldnt possibly make plans herself. I think this idea would be cute and different, after all is up with me helping me pick out the details. What do you all think?
Post # 3
@msmoya522: DO it!!!! My friend had his little brother (12, I think) as his Best man. it was so memorable and his brother was absolutely beaming up there next to him.
Your friend will understand. If she doesn’t…I would question whether or not she’s your friend…
Post # 4
I think thats cute. I’d do that – but whats the legalities in the US? In the UK the witness needs to be a certain age to sign the marriage register.
If it’s something you can do then I would – she shouldn’t have assumed!
Post # 5
@TogetherThroughLife: Your friend will understand. If she doesn’t…I would question whether or not she’s your friend… +1
Post # 6
@rangersbride: She couldn’t sign the marriage license, another person in the Bridal Party (or whoever the bride wants) that’s over 18 needs to sign it. It would be more of a symbolic Maid/Matron of Honor, not a legal.
Post # 7
I think you should definitely do it!!! I don’t think its possible for her to not understand – its your daughter, not some other random friend out of no where
Post # 8
I would do it. Like pmerr said, though, its a symbolic thing. Someone else will need to sign the marriage license. I was just shy of 18 years old when my friend got married, so I couldn’t sign the marriage certificate for her.
Post # 9
Thank you ladies! I’m gonna have her as the Maid/Matron of Honor and I can have my best friend sign as a witness. It is more symbolic and that to me is more important than what the role includes. Would it look weird that she would be walking back down the aisle with a grown man??? Lol
Post # 10
@pmerr: thanks for clarifying – curiosity! I say have your daughter be symbolic Maid/Matron of Honor and then pick the maid who means the most to be your witness. Don’t feel pressured.