Post # 1
My maid of honor recently got engaged and hasn’t spent much time on me ever since. I gave her her time to celebrate and enjoy. She has asked me to be the Maid/Matron of Honor in her wedding as well. I have no problem and I am honored to stand by her during her big day. Another one of my friends which i am also the Maid/Matron of Honor in has been stepping up and things are getting done because of her! So my questions/concerns are 1) What kind of gift should I get for her (usually you spend a little more on the MOH) and 2.) I’m gong to be spending a lot of time/money and attention on her and I already have! I’ve gotten her her wedding planner book I also sent her flowers for finding the perfect dress. I havent received anything from her. How do I break the news to her that I’m just not as happy with her as I was when i first got engaged? ( i hope this makes sense ahhaha)
Post # 3
Are you asking how to tell her you no longer want her as your MOH? That’s a big no no and your friendship may suffer greatly if you do. But considering that she did just get engaged, you can always give her the OPTION to just be a bridesmaid since she’s now busy planning and everything for her own wedding but don’t completely count on it. She may appreciate it or it may backfire completely on you.
As far as not helping you with everything, well it is your wedding. She doesn’t have to do things for you, as blunt as that sounds. It is an honor to be asked to be a Maid/Matron of Honor for a friend, but not every woman is going to go above and beyond just because they have a title. I’ve learned an awesome phrase from the Bee – “No one is as excited for your wedding as you are.” It’s wonderful that your other friend is such a huge help to you, make sure she knows you appreciate it!
When it comes to the gift for her, sorry… no answer on that one. I have a hard time suggesting gifts for people since they are a bit more personal and you would know her better than any of us.
Post # 4
She is probably busy starting to plan her own wedding. As PP mentioned, the only people responsible for hepling plan a wedding are the bride and groom – any help offered is an extra bonus. Perhaps she had time before, but doesn’t anymore.
1) You don’t necessarily need to give the Maid/Matron of Honor a more expensive gift – just give her something personal, no need to spend more than you do on the bridesmaids.
2) Get over it. You may think I’m being snarky, but I’m being realistic. Wedding party help is not tit for tat – just because you are helping her doesn’t mean she needs to go out and buy you wedding planning books too.
And squeee!!! Your bff is engaged! How exciting!