Maid of honor doesn’t like my dress

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 31
1069 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - -

I’d fire her, but I know that’s also a bit drastic. Definitely let her know she is not to fucking say anything else to your fiancé, or she’ll be a guest. Someone so mean and unsupportive  does not deserve to stand by you at your wedding. That’s a huge duh for me.

Post # 32
13928 posts
Honey Beekeeper

She has no taste at all because that dress is beautiful and will be beautiful on you. In no way will it be anything but flattering when altered. It already is! 

You have no obligation to go dress shopping with anyone, including the Maid/Matron of Honor. I shopped exclusively with my mother, too. 

The real slap in the face is how she went to your fiancé to tell him he might not like it. Anyone who is not supportive, would not be standing up next to me. Since this is your future sister in law, however, I’d try to have a rational conversation with her about how very hurtful that was. Normally I’d say your fiancé should be the one to deal with her, but this was personal. 

Post # 33
566 posts
Busy bee

Your dress is seriously beautiful! She’s just being a jelly cat. You do you and replace her as your MOH if she continues having nothing nice to say. 

Post # 34
947 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

in short, your sister in law is a jealous bitch. thats all i have to say about that….

you really do look beautiful. that dress is fanatastic and your future husband will adore it and you in it because hes marrying YOU, not the dress.

Post # 35
4094 posts
Honey bee

OMG, there will be no compaints about that dress, it’s a stunner! Tell her she ca nwear white when she gets married but you are exercsing your freedom of choice to wear blush pink (which is hardly daring you know).  Dress looks like it fits well. In any caseit will be tailored to perfection before you venture down the aisle

Post # 36
419 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2020 - New York, New York

Even if your dress made your arms look fat (or ANY part of your body fat, for that matter), she shouldn’t have mentioned it. If a bride loves a dress, she loves the dress, and you should get on board with her vision. However, that dress makes your body look great! Your arms don’t look fat at all and there’s no reason for her to say something so hateful. If anything, V-necks are super flattering for your arms and armpit fat. She’s completely wrong here. 

Post # 37
196 posts
Blushing bee

You look GORGEOUS! Your SIL is insecure. The dress is stunning, and I love that it’s not pure white (my dress isn’t either!). Your FH is going to swoon when he sees you.

Post # 38
400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Why is she your maid of honor? She doesnt sound very nice or supportive. 

Post # 39
1 posts
  • Wedding: July 2018

What a gorgeous dress you chose and you look look stunning in it! Sounds like the Maid/Matron of Honor has a serious problem with ‘foot in mouth’ and her remarks are totally nasty and it was not her place to say anthing about the dress to her brother. Has she always been like that? Was asking her to be your Maid/Matron of Honor your idea or was it your fiance’s? While you likely can’t change that, you may not be able to expect too much support from her going forward. I know my first response would to be less open and informative with anything else I may plan for my wedding if she has that kind of attitude. Hopefully you can count on some of your other bridesmaids to be supportive and helpful. You also may want to talk to your fiance and let him know how you feel and what kind of emotions and thoughts came up for you as a consequence of her comments and actions. Also if you talk directly to her and let her know how you feel (feeling words such as i.e. hurt, sad, disappointed,  anxious, nervous, perhaps she had her hopes up as to being their when you went dress shopping and she feels excluded [maybe] or other feelings, etc. without using blaming words). What she chooses to do with that is up to her and you can’t make anyone do or say anything. Maybe sending her some information that you can find on the internet as to what being a Maid/Matron of Honor is supposed entail …. (now I’m being nasty).  

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