Post # 1
My Maid/Matron of Honor doesnt want to wear a dress. she has suggested getting a top made out of the same material as the dresses and wearing pants with it. I have suggested that she wear the dress for the ceremony and pictures and then can change into whatever for the reception. I’m conflicted because I obviously want her in my wedding but don’t want my pictures to look crazy!! What should we do?
Post # 3
I think you’ve given her a good option- wear the dress for the ceremony and pictures, and change for the reception. Give her lots of dress options so she can pick something that she feels comfortable and covered in, but I think she needs to wear a dress. I mean, the very most basic requirements for a Bridesmaid or Best Man are wear the dress and show up on time. If she isn’t willing to do that, then maybe she needs to reconsider if she wants to be in the wedding. Sorry you’re having to deal with this. Good luck!
Post # 4
I also think that what you have suggested is a very good compromise.
Post # 5
as humans, we are often put in situations that make us uncomfortable…
a man working in an all women office, a woman working in a mans world, a woman being told she should wear heels to work because its more becoming (yes, a man actually told me to wear heels), wearing suits, putting a dress on for church, covering up your middrift in front of your mother, hiding a tatoo for your inlaws, the list goes on and on.
there are just times in our lives where we really should just go with the flow. its a wedding. your in the bridal party. stupid tradition or not, wear a dress. deal with it.
i know that sounded a bit snarky, and i am SOOO not a snarky person, but studying the human condition and reactions is what i do for a living (cultural anthro) and this stuff just cracks me up. suck it up and deal.
Post # 6
I’m of two minds about this –
1 – If all your maids are matching, she needs to suck it up and smile about it. That’s what being a bridesmaid is about.
2 – If all your maids are wearing different dresses, there is no reason she can’t wear a top and formal pants. it won’t make your pictures look weird at all since she’ll be in the same color and no one else matches.
Post # 7
I don’t see how that would make your pictures look crazy. I think it would make your pictures more unique and awesome.