- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
I got engaged about a month ago and have been actively planning my wedding since. I am excited, in love, happier than I have ever been in my entire life! All good things right?
Well choosing my Maid of Honor and Bridesmaids seemed to be an easy enough choice for me. My older sister lets call her “Meg” and I have always been closest, and she seemed really up for it. She was honored when I decided to choose her as Maid of honor. My other sister “Janine” and I are not as close, we talk less, and she has a young baby to raise so I thought she would be better as a bridesmaid. My last Bridesmaid is my oldest and dearest friend from high school, “Samantha”.
Everyone in my life so far has been extremely supportive and excited for me. Everyone, except of course my Maid of Honor Meg. She has made snide comments when the topic of my wedding comes up. She gauked at my ring and called it “disgusting’, and thought us having 100 guests was “over the top”. I don’t in general bring up the topic of the wedding with her, because she hasn’t been into it. Instead of being mad about this, I have been more than understanding. I don’t expect anyone to be as excited as I am about our wedding. Thats ok.
So I planned a dress shopping day with my bridesmaids and my mom. I made 3 appointments at 3 seperate dress boutiques and planned for us to have a nice lunch with cocktails in between. I told all the ladies that they were not obligated to go to every appointment with me, just bring your own car if you cant stay the whole day. Everyone was more than happy to just enjoy the day together as long as it took.
Meg complained before we even left for the first appointment. She said she thought it was “ridiculous” that I planned the whole day and threw a huge fit about how she didn’t have anything good to wear and told anyone that tried to help her to “fuck off, and shut up”. I made it clear to her that the last appointment was at 3pm, so we might not be back until 4:30 at the earliest. She KNEW this. I gave her the option to bring her own car if she needed to.
During the 2nd appointment, she and my other siter started arguing while I was changing. Then when we were heading to the 3rd appointment, she started heavy complaining, and wanted us all to take her home beforehand, but everyone pointed out that I would’ve been late. She went along and was calling me a “bridezilla”. She had an angry look on her face the entire time I tried on dresses so I couldn’t even take the gowns seriously (thankfully I already found an amazing dress at the 2nd place). Then as we went to leave to head back to the 2nd place to place an order for the #1 dress. She said “no way I have to go now I have a date”. It was 3:40pm. This was 50 minutes ahead of schedule mind you.
We told her to ride with my friend Samantha who offered to drive her back, since they live down the street from eachother. She refused and forced us all to drive her back to drop her off. The care ride was silent until my other sister Janine spoke up and said “you are SO selfish, I cant believe you are doing this to kayla, on her day”. Meg unleashed, and started saying the most hurtful and cruel things to my other sister. Every other word out of her mouth was “your a f***ing bitch”. My mom and I kept telling her to stop, but she wouldn’t. Janine was torn to shreads and balling her head off by the time we dropped Meg off.
Janine decided to go home, because she was so upset. I didn’t even get to say goodbye to either of them. Then of course my mom and I had to make the treck back to the boutique in horrible traffic to order the dress. Meg kept texting me and blowing up my phone, blaming everything on Janine. I ignored her texts. Eventually she asked if I was “mad at her”. I told her I was. She flipped out at me & started insulting me, and told me she didn’t want to be a part of my wedding, and to count her out of everything.
How did this happen to me? I’ve been so nice to everyone, I thanked every one of them all day and told them how much I love all of them. I didn’t expect anyone to stay the whole day & genuinely wouldn’t have minded if they had left early. I just work 45-55 hours a week, and this was the only time that matched up with everyones schedule, am I wrong for making a day of it?