(Closed) Maid of Honor Drama

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
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  • Post # 2
    1838 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I wouldn’t have her as my Maid of Honor.

    She’s making the process difficult, and that’s reason enough to have someone else fill that position. 

    Post # 3
    255 posts
    Helper bee

    If your relationship is important to you and this is really just an “im mad, hear me roar” moment for her, you dont want to make a decision that will damage your relationship for years to come based on both of you having a low tolerance for each other right now in this moment. Talk it out… I’m sure you’re not the only one with hurt feelings!

    Post # 5
    6263 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I definitely wouldn’t have her as my Maid/Matron of Honor. My sister was just a bridesmaid (I didn’t even want that).

    Post # 5
    1029 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    You don’t really need a Maid/Matron of Honor, so don’t let this interfere with your plans. 

    Either you and your sister mend things in time and she’s your Maid/Matron of Honor, or the day before your wedding, you can ask a bridesmaid to take over the Maid/Matron of Honor duties or split them among your bridesmaids.  There’s absolutely no need to rebrand one of your bridesmaids as your Maid/Matron of Honor, or give her a shiny badge so everyone recognizes that she is Maid/Matron of Honor.     

    Post # 8
    1161 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

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    DancinBride:  I think it’s important to talk it out with her, but I wouldn’t reinstate her if she quit during a fight. You can’t control when another fight might happen again, and you don’t want to stress about her doing it again a week before the wedding! If you can make her a bridesmaid instead, I would do that. If she apologizes and says she would still like to be your Maid/Matron of Honor, I would suggest her being a bridesmaid instead (because if this happens again, it’s not as big of a deal). I know this is a little unrelated, but this is a similar reason to why Fiance and I decided not to involve his mom deeply in the wedding–when her and Fiance get into arguments, she will always do something like this to try to get even with him, and she always picks the fights at the most stressful times.

    Post # 9
    572 posts
    Busy bee

    Definitely talk to her about it. Tell her that she cant use this as a scape goat for her own issues. Ask her if she still wants to be, and that she has to be definte about it!

    Post # 10
    30402 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

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    DancinBride:  If this just happened last night, I would leave the situation alone for a while till you both have time to cool off.

    Post # 11
    3 posts


    DancinBride:  I understand how you feel.  I’d maybe try talking it out, but if she makes it clear that she doesn’t want to talk, then hey, that is on her.  This is your day, and if she is choosing to make your day about unresolved issues you two have, then that too, is on her.  You honored her by asking her to be your Maid/Matron of Honor and if this is how she’s going to repay you, I’d totally understand why you wouldn’t want her as an Maid/Matron of Honor. 

    I hope it works out for you.  Yes, weddings can and do bring out the worst in people.  Trust me, I know.  Going through that with my brother right now.

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