(Closed) Maid of Honor – Dropped out of the wedding

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
2742 posts
Sugar bee

You should respond to her. Did she say WHY she is dropping out? You are assuming it’s money but it might not be. If it’s money, can you lend her some? Or go half and half with her?

Post # 4
299 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think u really need to talk to her and ask her why she is saying she can’t do it. She didn’t say she didn’t want to, but that she couldn’t…..maybe its somethng than can be resolved.

Post # 5
195 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Who does that via text? You definitely need to talk to her. I’m sure there is some reason and she’s pretty embarrassed (or rude) to text you something that important.

Post # 6
338 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

That is really frustrating/upsetting that your Maid/Matron of Honor dropped out.  You said she doesn’t make much money & you just got engaged this month though, right? Plane tickets are probably pricey, and to get the best price you have to order in advance.. 4 months may seem like a long time, but in the world of plane tickets, it’s really not.  Is she still able to come to the wedding, just can’t pay all the expenses of being a BM/MOH?  

I’m sure it was a tough decision for her.. I’m sure she would love to be a part of your day if possible, and is probs bummed out that she can’t be.  That doesn’t have to stop you from trying on dresses with her though (if you mean wedding dresses for yourself).  You know she doesn’t make a lot of money, so it’s probably just too much for her to be able to swing a dress, shoes, and plane ticket, and hotel.

I wouldn’t let this ruin your friendship though.. she obviously means a lot to you.  I’d just have a heartfelt talk with her & let her know how bummed you are she can’t be your Maid/Matron of Honor, but you still really hope she can come, and maybe if you make a decent amount of money, you could chip in with her costs of a plane ticket or something so she could at least attend.  By not responding, she probably thinks you’re mad at her, & while I can understand how let down you feel, it’s not her fault she can’t swing the money for travel & attire, and I would be devastated if a close friendship of mine ended because I couldn’t afford a new dress & shoes for an event.  That’s really not fair to her.

Best of luck to you with your situation.

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