Post # 1
I don’t know how to be but stressed. My wedding is June 12th in New Jersey. I live in Florida, but we are getting married in NJ because the majority of guests would be coming from there. Anyway…
My maid of honor is my best friend. She lives here in Florida and doesn’t make much money. I really want her in the wedding, but the other day via text message she told me that she couldn’t be in the bridal party. I don’t know what to say back to her and I haven’t responded back to her since. That may be childish, but I don’t know what to say. She’s know about this since we got engaged in February. We need to order the dresses and I was going to try on dresses with her. My fiance and I have offered to help her, like half of the dress, but we are also having a hard time paying for stuff. She knows that.
Now our wedding party is uneven, and I have a man on my side as well. I am so frustrated.
Post # 3
You should respond to her. Did she say WHY she is dropping out? You are assuming it’s money but it might not be. If it’s money, can you lend her some? Or go half and half with her?
Post # 4
I think u really need to talk to her and ask her why she is saying she can’t do it. She didn’t say she didn’t want to, but that she couldn’t…..maybe its somethng than can be resolved.
Post # 5
Who does that via text? You definitely need to talk to her. I’m sure there is some reason and she’s pretty embarrassed (or rude) to text you something that important.
Post # 6
That is really frustrating/upsetting that your Maid/Matron of Honor dropped out. You said she doesn’t make much money & you just got engaged this month though, right? Plane tickets are probably pricey, and to get the best price you have to order in advance.. 4 months may seem like a long time, but in the world of plane tickets, it’s really not. Is she still able to come to the wedding, just can’t pay all the expenses of being a BM/MOH?
I’m sure it was a tough decision for her.. I’m sure she would love to be a part of your day if possible, and is probs bummed out that she can’t be. That doesn’t have to stop you from trying on dresses with her though (if you mean wedding dresses for yourself). You know she doesn’t make a lot of money, so it’s probably just too much for her to be able to swing a dress, shoes, and plane ticket, and hotel.
I wouldn’t let this ruin your friendship though.. she obviously means a lot to you. I’d just have a heartfelt talk with her & let her know how bummed you are she can’t be your Maid/Matron of Honor, but you still really hope she can come, and maybe if you make a decent amount of money, you could chip in with her costs of a plane ticket or something so she could at least attend. By not responding, she probably thinks you’re mad at her, & while I can understand how let down you feel, it’s not her fault she can’t swing the money for travel & attire, and I would be devastated if a close friendship of mine ended because I couldn’t afford a new dress & shoes for an event. That’s really not fair to her.
Best of luck to you with your situation.